Happiness.

These days when we see some couple and think, oh these people are happy, we may not know otherwise. A lot of couples are having difficulties in their marriages, but out in public they pretend to be happy because they want to maintain appearances and that is the more reason why we have a lot of Christian separation and divorces.

Most Christians have forsaken God; they have handed over the reigns of control in their homes to materialism and worldliness through which they have also invited sorrow, failure, and regrets into their homes forgetting that happiness is not found in pleasure, happiness is not found in position and fame, it is not found in money, neither is it found in cheap glory.

I am exceptionally moved by so-called men and women of God who allowed themselves to be cornered into divorcing their spouses, they were suppose to know better, pray better and try to work out issues that may lead to divorce before it degenerated further. What do they tell their flocks, which reasons do they give for divorce? How can such men continue to lead their flock when they have already disobeyed God?

Genuine happiness can only be achieved when we truly love, honour and care for each other, always considering our partner’s interest before our own. Living a life full of kindness and good deeds.

Marriage is not always a bed of roses; there will be the usual ups and downs, which we must learn to deal with maturely and with wisdom. Couples must be willing and ready to forgive each other for not living up to each other’s expectations and accept the differences in our personality and character; it is only by this that some measure of happiness could be attained.

We need to learn to live with each other happily for the sake of our children. It is quite easy to pass a wrong message across by our attitude to each other.

Shalom!

Uncontrollable Greed.

Greed is an excessive desire to acquire or possess more than what one needs or deserves, especially with respect to material wealth. It has driven people to do things that were unconventional; it has pushed others to commit unforgivable sins against God and man. It has also being known to make some give up their families, abandon their spouses with children, withhold testimony in a court of law in order to let a murderer go free and even kill in order to satisfy their greedy.

Greed is said to be the logical result of the belief that we have to grab what we can while we can however we can and then hold on to it very hard so that others don’t snatch it from us. A greedy person can go to any length to get what they want, it could be greed for food, fame, praise, knowledge, wealth, position etc. People have even been known to involve in ritual killings, human sacrifices and all in other to make money, win an election, or simply for protection from assumed enemies. People in the grip of greed are often not able to control themselves, they just want to acquire more and more of whatever it is they crave, not caring whom they hurt in the process.

And in their desire for profit they will come to you with words of deceit, like traders doing business in souls: whose punishment has been ready for a long time and their destruction is watching for them 2 Pe 2:3

For he knows no satisfaction in his appetite; he does not let anything he desires escape. Job 20:20

That is because, from the least important to the most important of them, all of them are greedy for dishonest gain. Prophets and priests alike, all of them practice deceit. Jer 6:13

But you are always thinking and looking for ways to increase your wealth by dishonest means. Your eyes and your heart are set on killing some innocent person and committing fraud and oppression. Jer 22:17

Watch Out, a greedy person is usually a dangerous person and often times a killer.

Discouragement Is Dangerous.

Paths without obstacles don’t lead anywhere. To be an achiever, one will have to go through some tough times. The best approach to this is to refuse to be discouraged by temporary setbacks like barrenness, disappointments in relationship, marital problems, lack of promotion, unemployment and so on.

If you are going through tough times, don’t worry because circumstances are not your master. You can always take the measure of a person by the amount of opposition it takes to discourage him/her. Remember that adversity is the mother of invention and difficulty give birth to opportunity. Discouragement can kill like a poison, it is dangerous. If your life is filled with difficulties one after another, then you need to seek the face of God in prayers, he is the only solution to a difficult life.

Ask God to reveal His purpose in allowing difficulties in your life. That's a legitimate question to ask. Often, the answer comes in the process of dealing with your circumstance.

"Dear brothers and sisters, whenever trouble comes your way, let it be an opportunity for joy. For when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be strong in character and ready for anything." (James 1:2-4).

Arte Y Pico.

I received this award few weeks back from Channelofhealing. I must confess that almost all the award this blog received was from channelofhealing. I am indeed grateful for yet another one.

Arte Y Pico award …is given to those who inspire others with their creative energy and talents in writing, artwork, design or contributions to the blogging community. It originated from Arte Y Pico …. Which Loosely translates to, “Wow? The Best Art. Over "

The “official instructions” are as follows:

1. Pick five blogs you consider deserving of this award, whether for creativity, design, interesting material, or contributions to the blogging community, no matter what language.

2. Name each nominee and link to his/her blog.

3. Show the award and include the name (and link to his/her blog) of whoever presented you with this award.

4. Be sure to link to the Arte y Pico blog, so everyone knows the origin of this award.

Here are my picks for this award.

Elder Larry C. Scott for http://marriagegodsway.blogspot.com/

Nijawife for http://anijawife.blogspot.com/

Solomonsydelle for http://www.solomonsydelle.com/

Wits an Wisdom for http://www.ayodeleajiboye.com/

A proverb 31 woman wannabe for http://msp31wannabe.blogspot.com/

How well do you know your children!

Our children are our best assets, but when they are unknowingly neglected on the premise of work or trying to provide for the family by either the father or mother and in some cases by both parent, the children tend to fend for themselves and along the way, develop all sorts of character and vices that the parents are not aware of. They mixed with friends that the parents may not approve of because there is no supervision from their parent and even when the parent’s are at home they show little concern for the friends their children make, the magazines they read, or the TV programs they watch.

Often times, these children are left in the care of househelps or relatives who do not care what the children do to keep themselves busy as long as they are not pestering. Some of these children suffer a lot at the hands of the people they are trusted with, of course, their parents may not know anything about it especially for those too young or those that are not bold and wise enough to report to their absent parents. And for those children in their teens, they are taught a lot of bad things which these children may accept as normal without question or are made to believe that if such are made known to their parents they will be punished or they may be construed as telling tales.

Some of these children lose their innocence without the parent’s knowledge; they matured quickly into adulthood as a result of keeper’s bad influence, peer pressure and unhealthy exposure to TV and Internet because the parent did not exercise either a positive or negative control over their usage. Because they are also made to fend for themselves for such a long time while the parents are busy making money, they are forced to take critical decisions on their own. Some of those children exposed to child abuse are those left in the care of others by their parents, they grow up being rebellious, degenerates, child abusers, perverts, and renown sex offenders.

Parents must take care, it is good to work and make money for your family but not at the expense of the child, a parent’s responsibility is not to his child’s happiness; but to his character.

Parents should not allow their own interests to keep them from taking the time to talk, listen, admonish and instruct their children on what they should know, if they do, they will seek answers from others outside and they may not always get the right answers.

Parents should also know that, if their children were constantly left in the care of others, the children would start to avoid them and they may eventually have problems getting attached to their parents.

Lastly, parents should learn to balance time at work with time spent with their children.

Peace!

MumsDadsChildren Star Award! !! !!!

This is unbelievable! I just had some extra time to play off web today and you can’t believe I came up with something extra ordinary, for me it is extraordinary because I have never been artistic in anyway, cant draw anything other than engineering drawings and those were basically lines. I just put together one or two images in PowerPoint, a little editing here and there and I have what I want. I never knew it could be that simple. Now I have my own award to give to deserving friends and readers of this blog, been looking for a way to show some appreciation apart from leaving comments on blog and I think this is it in my own little way.

The star award, simply created for bloggers, whose presence have been felt on MumsDadsChildren, who has been a constant source of inspiration and encouragement to this blog.

The recipient can pass it on to whoever deserves to have it, there is no strict rule, just a mention on your blog will be appreciated.

Here are the recipients;

Channelofhealing
Anijawife
NaijaECash
Realities
Nigeriancuriosity
Clement Nyirenda’s
LoveWorld
RefinedOne
The Painted Veil

More to Come.

Is childlessness enough reason for break-up?

Readers please assist to give reasonable answers to this topic. A friend asked me yesterday if she should divorce her husband and look for love elsewhere since it seems they are not destined to have children together. This kind of question I don’t usually like to give answers to simply because I don’t want to be quoted. So I simply asked her to go to God in prayer and not be deceived by the circumstances surrounding her presently, as she never can predict God.

She got married seven years back and since there has never been a pregnancy, not even for a day. They have both visited various doctors, who certified them okay, but then nothing seems forth coming and the in-laws are getting restless and also insinuating all sorts of things. The issue came to a climax when she overheard her hubby’s parent telling their son to look for children elsewhere because the wife is a “male pawpaw” that is, a barren woman. This made her decide to also look elsewhere for a solution before she is unceremoniously dumped.

I am of the opinion that only God gives children, they are gifts from him and if he has not decided to bestow that blessing on someone, then, there is nothing anyone can do about it.

Genesis 16:2; so she said to Abram, "The LORD has kept me from having children. Go, sleep with my maidservant; perhaps I can build a family through her." Abram agreed to what Sarai said.

Genesis 29:32 Leah became pregnant and gave birth to a son. She named him Reuben, for she said, "It is because the LORD has seen my misery. Surely my husband will love me now."

Genesis 30:1-3
When Rachel saw that she was not bearing Jacob any children; she became jealous of her sister. So she said to Jacob, "Give me children, or I'll die!" Jacob became angry with her and said, "Am I in the place of God, who has kept you from having children?" Then she said, "Here is Bilhah, my maidservant. Sleep with her so that she can bear children for me and that through her I too can build a family."
These two women suffered the consequences of their action simply because they both could not wait for God to do it at his own time.

Please, take time to drop a word of advice.

Shalom!