Knowing your children

The authority of parents, especially of the father, over children is very great, as was also the reverence enjoined by the law to be paid to parents. Exercising that authority over our children to curb their excesses may be necessary especially when you know the kind of children you have. Children are a great gift from God, but somewhere along the line we fail in our duties as parent and this may have resulted in our having good children or otherwise. The word of God says train up your child in the way he will go and when he grows he will not depart from it. Easier said than done, but can be achieved only by the mercy and grace of God. Some children don’t want to be good regardless of how hard you tried as a parent.

They;

Don’t hearken to their parent;

Despise their parents;

Curse their parents for bringing them to the world;

Bring reproach on their parents;

Do not know God;

Are proud;

Lack understanding of good

Are calamities to their parents and the whole family?

Despised their elders;

Are griefs to their parent and continuously make them unhappy;

Mock their parents.

Good children do the opposite of all these, they are a joy to have and to behold.

Who are your children?

Do you know who they are?

Can you vouch for their character?

Do you understand your children?

Please answer these questions and rate how well you know your children.

There is power in your smile.

Do you know that even though it lasts for just a few seconds, the memory of a smile could stay with you for the rest of your life? There is power in your smile, its value is immeasurable, it is immense because when a smile is directed at you, it makes you feel warm all over, you feel more relaxed and you feel you could handle any situation that arises. I remember the lyrics of a nursery song my son used to sing, it goes like

So let the sun shine in,Smilers never lose
And Frowners never win…etc. (hope I got that right?)

If you have a baby, and the baby smiles for the very first time, the parents are delighted and watch out for repeat performance. And as they grow older the smile comes more often and you still generate the same feeling inside you, it cheers you up and make you want to protect the child, it gives you a special feeling that I cannot really explain. Even as adults, when you offer someone a smile, it invokes a nice feeling towards you because your smile has a positive effect on the other person whether you knew it or not.

A sincere smile communicates our feelings to others without the need for words; it could be a smile of greeting or of encouragement. Someone in a bad mood cannot offer a smile, and when you smile you tell people about the state of your mind, I am happy, joyous, elated and so on.

Make an effort to share a smile today and you will feel better than when you were frowning or scowling. A smile also make you look younger than your age, it’s fun to smile, a GENUINE SMILE of course.

A smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks. - Charles Gordy in Thomaston

Did you say Mumps?

I woke up Tuesday morning to notice a swelling on my son’s face. My first thought was that he had hit his face against a wall in the night or had a fight at school and someone hit him in the process. All the same my first reaction was to take him to the hospital because I will not know how serious it is until I get him to the hospital. The doctor said Mumps is a viral infection spread by airborne droplets from the nose or throat, that the disease is most common in children after the age of two. He said it is good that I brought him as soon as I noticed it, that if not quickly attended to, it could cause the child severe pain, increase body temperature, cause fever, make him unable to eat or chew anything and if not properly treated can affect the scrotum.

On hearing this, I was so scared, anything to do with my child’s health is important. I had to do my own research to fully understand the infection better. I goggled mumps and came up with netdoctor, I was glad I did because after reading through the article I was relieved that it did not present any serious problem.

Well, thought I’d better get this out for people like me who had no previous experience of mumps, it could be unpleasant seeing your child’s ear sticking out with his face all swollen and disfigured. You could read further at Netdoctor.

Laziness

This is aversion or disinclination to work, activity, or exertion; indolent. A lazy person exhibits slothfulness, indolence, and often times, sluggish. Personally, I detest laziness and do not really want any form of association with a lazy person. People generally despised and condemn any person known to be lazy.

Like all other vices, laziness is first contrived in the mind before it manifest outwardly. A lazy person sets up barriers within his mind to justify his not doing what he was supposed to do. Such people think the world owes them a living, and if by mistake they put a little effort in something, they feel they have done their own bit. They are wise in their own eyes thinking that hardwork does not pay; others blame the government for their status or lack of it. The funny part is that, lazy people have higher desire for things (clothes, praise, food, cars etc.) compared to hardworking people. And when those desires cannot be met, they resort to cut corners to get what they want.

Laziness could lead to robbery, theft, prostitution, and fraudster’s aka 419 because an idle mind is the devil’s workshop. Lazy people hardly get jobs and even when they do, it does not last because they are sure to be fired as soon as their character become known.

Because of the idle state of their unoccupied mind, they are prone to gossip, poke into other people’s affair, they loiter, trespass and all sorts of unimaginable things. Parents should teach their children to be hardworking, but of course, the best way to teach is by example. So be a hard worker so your children can emulate you.

Hardwork precedes excellence; hard work is the only sure way to have good success.

Remember, there is dignity in labour.

Teach your children to love.

No one is actually an expert when it comes to raising children, all we can do is try to learn from the one who knows best how to raise children (God), so when we talk about raising children the right way, we can only believe that with the help of God we can succeed as parents. But the greatest gift a parent can give to their children is to help them develop respect and a loving attitude towards all people regardless of class, social status, race, tribe, language or state of health.

In other to teach children to love, parents also need to show how much they treasure their own relationship with others starting from the relationship between their parents. Parents that openly display love and affection like telling each other “I love you”, kissing each other often (Not the amorous kind in presence of children) and so on are sending a message to their children that they love and care for each other. Make it a point of duty to also say nice and encouraging words about people, don’t say bad/negative things about others, don’t discriminate or gossip idly and carelessly around them, it sent bad vibes to the children and can portray those people as bad. Keep your reservations about others to yourself or until when they are not present to witness it.

Are you ever jealous? Then be very careful so that your children don’t copy it because love is not jealous. You see, jealousy can occur in a family if the parents favour one child over another, it could cause a problem between them that may be irreparable and can even make them want to hurt each other. It could caused big trouble, so teach your children to avoid giving in to jealous but love one another and even others that are not members of your family.

Above all, the best way to teach children to love is by example, this is so important because, you can’t tell them to love while you hate, love all men, do things that shows you care for people, teach them to be patient with others cause love is patient; teach them to be sensitive and gentle cause love is kind; teach them to be humble in all things because, love is not arrogant, it does not brag or show off.

May God help us we raise great and amazing children .

Shalom!

Further Reading

Parents are to protect their children

Are you a good parent

How well do you know your children!

Children's lack of discipline

Parents Are To Protect Their Children.

Our children need to be protected from bad influences, dangerous relationships/associations and wicked people who are bent on exploiting their innocence. In this present times parents need to be alert to inherent dangers in our society, they need to be able to anticipate situations that could cause problems and take necessary precautions to avert it. For example, working parents should be aware of dangers of leaving their children to child minders and babysitters because a lot of them abuse children. Secondly, if you allow your children the use of the Internet, you should be aware of what they do with it. The sites they visits, people they chat with, new friends they make and so on. Infact, it may actually be best if you keep the computer in an open place where you can easily monitor its use.

As parents, we need to prepare and train our children for the harsh realities of this abusive world. We should teach them how to relate with friendly strangers or strangers of any kind, we should also teach them what to do in case someone they know or do not know tries to take advantage of them when we are not present. Our children are to be taught the proper and improper usage of their body parts especially the private area. Here is a story that may drive this home;

I heard this story from a friend, who told me it happened in their neighbourhood. There was this widely respected elderly man who lived close by, he was known to love children and always play with all the small children in the area and the children loved him in return because he constantly dished out goodies to them at the end of play. Some parents are even known to send their children out to play with uncle when they are busy and did not want disturbance. One day her daughter came back from play and told her that uncle asked her to play with his snake but she told him that it is not a snake but a Pee Pee, and because she refused to touch it uncle did not give her any sweets. (Meanwhile she has always told her children about their body, telling them what the private parts were called.) She said she was shocked and had to call her husband to come home immediately so that they could investigate. On further interrogation, she found out that uncle has been abusing the children for ages. He will put on a big robe (Agbada) and asked the children to go under it to play with his snake while he fondles them in return and afterwards reward them with sweets. His luck ran out when he asked my friends daughter to play for the first time.

Lesson learned, teach your children what they need to know about their body, start from age 3 if possible and continue as they grow older, let them know what each of their body part is, the areas that no one can touch or play with. I think that was what helped to expose the old pervert. Don’t leave your children’s training to others, not to their teachers in school, not to your relatives, their peers or your neighbours. Make it your personal responsibility to teach your children all they need to know about sex. You never know who is perverted until found out, so don’t leave your children to child molesters; they could even be your close relatives.

Shalom!

The father’s love

The place of a father in the life of a child must never be empty because the love a father has for his children is unique as it helps the emotional, spiritual and intellectual growth of children. The role of a father in the life of a child is complex, aside his being the family head, he is seen primarily as a discipline dispenser in the home as most mothers tend to over pamper the children being that they are with them more than with their father.

A father’s ability or inabilities to be a good father to his children is solely dependent on his own his upbringing. If a drunken weakling who has no love for him brought him up, there is a tendency that when he has children of his own he may not love and care for them even though he is not a drunken weakling himself. Likewise, a man brought up by a rigid, no-nonsense father may tend to treat his children the same way.

Children who have their father’s love are prone to be physically, spiritually and emotionally stable as well as being confident in their ability to love others and mix easily with friends and family. A good father should always be ready with words of love, encouragement, praise and motivation for his children. He should show a personal interest in each of them and also let them know they have his approval. He should not be too critical and overly protective. Most of all, he should not neglect to discipline, children need discipline to grow up productive and responsible adults. Eph 6:4.

Shalom!

Are you a good parent?

Being a good parent is not by buying children expensive gifts, clothe items or by enrolling them in the best schools, but by spending time with them, giving them enough attention, teaching them all they will need to grow up as responsible adults who fear God. Being a good father or mother is easy; all a parent needs to do is spend more time with their kids even if they had to earn less money to create the time. Hug them as often as possible, have fun with them, always listen to their problems, talk with them about their day, tell them stories especially bible stories and teach them to pray often. When children are denied of their parents love and attention they will be miserable and empty in their hearts, that is why as soon as some enter into their teens they turn to friends for consolation, some turn to sex and others to drinks or some other vices to satisfy the emptiness within them. Create time to teach them all they need to know at the appropriate age. (Deut. 6:6-7).

Don’t neglect to discipline your children; Prov 23:13-14 - Do not withhold discipline from a child; even if you strike him with the rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod, you will deliver him from death. Even though the bible approve of child discipline, don’t abuse it, never hit a child on the head, don’t shake a child, the best and safest place to beat a child is on the buttocks, and remember not too hard, a few small whacks to remind the child to obey you is enough.

There is a right time and a wrong time to discipline a child, when a child is deliberately disobey the parent by not doing what he was asked to do, for example; when you asked a child to take a dirty linen to the laundry or pack dirty dishes from the dinning to the kitchen and he chooses not to do it, then you can discipline the child that is deliberate disobedient. But when a child forget to do something he/she was supposed to do or the child made a mistake then you should not discipline such child. You can let the child know that he has done something wrong and correct him accordingly.

Learn to praise your children when they do something well, try to notice all the things they do well and praise them for it. Cultivate a habit of praising them more than you punish them.

Introducing Gorgeous Praise Oreoluwa.

Oreoluwa is my daughters native name, it means Gift of God or Gods gift. She is indeed a gift to us from the Lord almighty. She is 4months old and a continual source of joy to our family. She always has a wonderful smile for everyone.

I just can’t help introducing her to my blog friends, who constantly asks after her and always want to know how she is faring.

Here are her latest Pics.

Happy viewing!

Jealousy, the price a loser pays to a winner.

That is not the dictionary meaning of jealousy, just an analogy. The meaning from dictionary.com is jealous resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another's success or advantage itself.

Jealousy is always the fear that something, which we hold dear, will be taken away by another person. Jealousy can apply to every areas of our lives; our jobs, our possessions, fame, business success / acumen, excellent grade, or our reputations, even though the word is more often used to describe the anxiety that comes when we are afraid that the affections of a loved one might be lost to a rival. We fear that our mates, or perhaps our children, will be lured away by some other person who, when compared to us, seems to be more attractive, capable and successful.

If we all agree that all men are not born equal, some have a measure of charisma, which the other lacks. Some have lovable personalities others don’t. I have traits that are quite different from my husband’s and children’s, if I understand this and the fact that when God created us all, he deposited different grace in every one of us, then i will have no reason to be envious, it breeds jealousy. In matt 25:14-30 the master gave talents to all the servants according to their predetermined abilities. This simply tells us that we all have resources, talents, grace and ability to make it and be whoever or whatever we want to be; our success is not dependent on any man except God. I have this understanding and that is why is very easy for me not to be bothered by issues like page rank, links to popular blog, number of visitor and other blogging promotional related issues.

Don’t get me wrong; they are good if they are achieved by pure hardwork and not by copying other successful bloggers posts in other to draw the same traffic to your otherwise unknown blog. Begging for links is also wrong, when I started blogging, I thought the best way to move ahead is by begging bigger blogs for links, some of the big blogs even offer to sell their links in exchange for money, it’s totally wrong! They also started blogging the same way every other blogger started and over time with lots of dedication, self-discipline, hardwork and focus became bloggers to reckon with.

In general, a jealous person feel happy when the rival is experiencing pains, failure, heartbreak, disappointment simply because, what makes the person better than him is being taken away from the person. I read somewhere than the first major sign of jealousy is when it’s easier to show sympathy and weep with those who weep than it is to exhibit joy and rejoice with those who rejoice.

I have learned that if I work hard enough I will get that which is due to me without any struggle other than the hardwork I have invested. I don’t need to envy that which another person has.
A jealous person ends up hurting no one but himself.

Let us take heed.

Homosexuality and Gay marriages.

The word gay from oxford dictionary means first, of homosexuals or for homosexuals, second: careless, without worries and third: happy and full of life. While homosexuality is sexual desire or behavior directed toward a person or persons of one's own sex.

Now talking about marriage, the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc. and by its nature, it is ordered towards the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of the offspring. Hence man and woman was ordained to live in love and share love with each other, it is divine and not man-made.

From the aforementioned, it is crystal clear that the coinage of the words GAY and MARRIAGE is contradictory and in fact outside the normal. This implies that both words are irreconcilable because gayism is homogenous – between those of opposite sex; but the sense of marriage is outside the context of homosexuality because there is no point of agreement as they have different aims and in the same vein different means and end.

Gen 1:27-28, so God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: if God had intended the so called same sex marriage, he would have as well leave man lonely without creating a woman and device his own supernatural way of multiplying the earth. Remember, the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah was because of the sin of homosexuality, Leviticus 18:22, Thou shall not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination and Lev 20:13, If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.

Conclusively, the battle against this disease, (because I see it as a disease) involves every right thinking individual who still have some moral preservation. It is our duties to educate and counsel those who seem to be disposed towards this ugly and awkward act. Rather than allowing them to influence us, let us work together to influence the perverted ones among us.

Good must be done and evil must be totally avoided.

Shalom!

A Dysfunctional child.

In every home there are needs that are very essential to the daily existence of our children. If some of these needs are not met as at when required then a lot of things could go wrong. There is always the physical, emotional and the spiritual need and when any of these is lacking there tends to be Loss of trust in the parents, bridge in communication and listening, loss of respect for parents, lots of skeletons in the cupboard (keeping of secrets), tendency to ignore inappropriate behaviour, loss of feelings etc.

In a family, where the physical needs of the children like food, clothing, shelter etc are not met either as a result of the parents inability to provide because of unemployment, sickness or because either of the parent has the sole responsibility of raising the children alone (single parenthood), the children suffer unduly and has to look for a means to an end all by themselves. Such children are often seen on the streets begging for alms, involved in underage prostitution, picking pockets, snatching of handbags etc.

Emotional need is much more complex and usually very difficult and more subtle to detect. It is the need for acceptance, affirmation and love from parents or guardian. Most children who feel they do not have the love of their parents, grow up to unstable, unloving, they lack emotions, self esteem, confidence and they tend to be impaired/dysfunctional persons when the grow up. The results of this; the children often have behaviour disorders, they are poor in their academics, they don’t mix or make friends easily, they fight at every given opportunity, and they tend to be loners.

Finally the spiritual need, as earlier discussed in a previous post, the often missing dimension in marriage, so also it is with our children. They must be given the opportunity to know God and serve him, if you are godly, then teach your children to also obey (Eph. 6:1; 1 Tim. 3:4), give them the necessary guidance and direction on how to know God and be disciplined into a mature relationship with him. Remember that parents must teach God’s truth at all times Deut. 4:9; 32:46). Failure to do this can result in untold hardship as a result of loses of direction and focus.

Our children are our greatest assets, our most valuable investments and also the most valuable fruit of the kingdom of God; let us therefore faithfully bring them up so that we can be confident that our efforts from age 0-9months and beyond will not be in vain (Prov. 22:6).

Prove yourself trustworthy

I have heard that two wrongs never a make a right so many times, and I always relate it to when two people are in a dispute or serious argument over something. But recently I got to relate it to marriage and what I find was not too palatable at all. Sometimes when a spouse does something wrong, the other partner, in most cases find it very difficult to correct especially where the husband is the culprit, some wife will rather be mum than risk the wrath of the husband. I have witness cases like the father asking a child to tell a visitor he does not want to see that he is not at home, while he was right there in his bedroom, the wife did not see anything wrong with it. We need to prove ourselves worthy of our families trust especially our growing children. Some men lied to their wives about their whereabouts after office hours and vice versa. Remembering what apostle Paul wrote in 2 Cor. 13:5a “prove your own selves”. Because everyone make mistake, you are not expected to be perfect, (Eccl 7:20 “For there is not a just man upon earth, that do good, and sinned not.”) but does the pattern of your behaviour give your family members or people around you reason to doubt you and withhold their trust?

Lastly remember also that the degree to which you are trusted is a result of how trustworthy you have proven yourself either in your home, office, among friends and relatives.

Pray for us: for we trust we have a good conscience, in all things willing to live honestly – Heb. 13:18

The seasons of one’s life.

There are different seasons in a person’s life, according to Ecclesiastes 3:1-8, to every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. How I wish that everyone passing through one trial or the other could read this and believe in it.

Yesterday, I heard the story of a woman, married for twelve years without a child, suddenly one day she just decided to end it all by jumping into a well. Fortunately for her, there were people around who rescued her but not without a serious injury to her spinal cord. The doctors told her she could no longer have a child because of the injury, this devastated the husband who had always been supportive of her and even had hopes of having a child with her at God’s own time. The husband started seeing another woman who got pregnant for him and he was according to him left with no other choice than to ask the first wife for divorce.

How I wish the woman had waited, how I wish she had enough faith to believe that her season is yet to come.Remember the Apache season and the story of a man who had four sons. He wanted his sons to learn not to judge things too quickly. So he sent them each on a quest, in turn, to go and look at a pear tree that was a great distance away.

The first son went in the winter, the second in the spring, the third in summer, and the youngest son in the fall. When they had all gone and come back, he called them together to describe what they had seen.

The first son said that the tree was ugly, bent, and twisted.

The second son said no it was covered with green buds and full of promise.

The third son disagreed; he said it was laden with blossoms that smelled so sweet and looked so beautiful, it was the most graceful thing he had ever seen.

The last son disagreed with all of them; he said it was ripe and drooping with fruit, full of life and fulfillment.

The man then explained to his sons that they were all right, because they had each seen but only one season in the tree's life. He told them that you cannot judge a tree, or a person, by only one season, and that the essence of who they are and the pleasure, joy, and love that come from that life can only be measured at the end, when all the seasons are up.

If you give up when it's winter, you will miss the promise of your spring, the beauty of your summer, and fulfillment of your fall. Don't let the pain of one season destroy the joy of all the rest. Don't judge life by one difficult season. Persevere through the difficult patches and better times are sure to come some time or later.

For as many passing through one difficulty or other, please take it from me, suicide is not an option, it is a sin against your creator, you’re are telling God that he did not create you well. Also know that even though Happiness keeps You Sweet, it is Trial that keep You Strong, Sorrow that make You Human, Failure keep You Humble, Success keeps You Glowing, BUT ONLY GOD KEEPS YOU GOING!

HIV/AIDS?

Few months back I had to go to the clinic for antenatal registration, and at the end of it I was given such a huge bill that I had to exclaim. But upon questioning the accounts clerk I was given the breakdown of the payment and I was so surprise to see HIV/AIDS test boldly written on the receipt. This gave me a scare because it never really occurred to me that you have to do such tests when you go in for such registration. Maybe I was told and I was like, that does not have anything to do with me! So I didn’t pay attention to it. But believe me, after I left the clinic, even though I have no reason to be bothered, I kept wondering about it and I could not wait until my next visit to ask for the outcome. Sure it was negative, as I knew it was going to be.

But then I remembered the story of a sister, who got married to a fellow brother in her church, they were both born again xtians, nobody need to tell you they were before you know, they were serious xtians. Immediately after their marriage, the lady took in and delivered. After some months she started falling sick, it was so serious that she had to be transferred from one hospital to another until she finally landed at a teaching hospital where she was diagnosed with HIV. When she was questioned about her sexual life she was at first very angry and refused to answer their questions because she was a virgin when she got married and never had sexual relation with any other person except her husband. The husband and child were tested and both tested positive.

Then the question of who gave who arose, both claimed they have been faithful. Few months after this, the wife died and later the child, still the man kept mute and tongues started wagging about the sister been the perpetrator since she died first. Then the man developed symptoms too and it was on his deathbed he confessed that when the wife was pregnant at the early stage and could not fulfil her marital obligations, he had to look elsewhere for sex because he was so used to it then that abstinence was difficult for him to cope with. Imagine that!

Saturday 1st Dec 2007, is another world’s AID day, how do you feel about this? Some don’t believe AIDS is real, some believe they cannot have it, while others don’t think it’s worth a second thought. But please hear this, people that are afraid of confronting the issue of AIDS are usually the ones to be infected simply because of their non-committal attitude towards it. To read more about HIV/AIDS, visit this link.

Be blessed and please live a healthy life.

Children’s Lack of Discipline.

Lack of control or restrain is so common in our society today and I really don’t know whom to hold responsible for this. Is it the mother’s fault? Or is the father lacking in his responsibility to the child? Could it be the child refused to listen to reason? Where did the problem originate? This is one seemingly intractable problem in most families today.

Indiscipline manifests in such areas as examination malpractices, secret cult menace, unprotected sex, unwanted pregnancies, bribery and corruption, prostitution (both male and female now). There are crisis everywhere you turn in the society as a result of undisciplined youths, most parents neglect the care of their children in search of greener pastures or better prospects and by the time they get their breakthrough, they are total strangers to their children who have become uncontrollable and distant.

Most parents today leave their children in the care of maids and child sitters or sometimes to their own devices thinking they are old enough to take care of themselves, they come in from their place of work only to rush out to meet with their charity group, their club friends, attend dinner at friends house and so on thinking all is well until something otherwise happen.

Parents should take up the challenge of raising God fearing, obedient and disciplined children, this will better our own lives, give us peace in our old age and make the world a better place for everyone to live in. Think of it, there will be little or no perversion, rape, kidnapping for whatever purpose, robbery, smuggling, corruption, drugs etc. In other to achieve this, you can;

• Teach him to pray as soon as he/she can speak or old enough to understand what prayer means.
• Correct cruelty to others either human or animal,
• Tell the child not to lie or correct a lie whenever it is uttered, do not punish a fault that is freely confessed, but never allow a disobedient act to go unpunished.
• Teach them to love others always as themselves,
• Don’t give them room to satisfy their own desires or adhere to their own opinions, it could lead to selfishness or destructive habit when denied,
• Give him whatever he politely asks for, if it’s good for him but deny him whatever he cries for whether it is good for him or not.
• Don’t make empty promises or promises you know you cannot fulfill, honor every promise you make to them.
• Commend them when well behaved and reward when necessary.

Remember Prov 22:6, train up a child in the way he should go, when he is old, he will not turn from it.

Be blessed.

Who should be responsible for household chores?

From time immemorial, it is generally believe that the bulk of the housework lies on the woman of the house, whether she is strong enough to do so, or in the right frame of mind to do it is not of utmost importance, the bottom line is it’s an obligation she must fulfil. I was privy to an argument between two of my office colleagues where one of the two guys bluntly stated that he married his wife to take care of his home and raise his children, which is the only work he believed a woman should do and not running helter skelter to meet up with office deadlines and so on. Then I asked him what he does in the house to assist the woman, and he simply replied that he washes their cars in the mornings and that is all. So in essence, the woman cooks, do the dirty laundry and ironing, prepare the children for school, drive them to school, drive back home to take care of the mess left behind, prepare lunch for the children, do afternoon school runs, help the kids with their homework, shopping, all for the man to come back from work with his own demands. My next question to the egoistical bagel was when does she usually wake up and sleep, he said she wake by 4am and sleep 11:30/12pm which he said is not bad because she has all day to catch up on her sleep and rest. From what I’ve heard so far and the appearance of the woman from the few times I’ve met with her I thought to myself that it was no wonder the woman always looked exhausted no matter the time of the day. She does not have any spare time for rest, she is always on her toes and the husband does not seem to mind. He looks robust and well fed, because he does absolutely nothing, I’ve heard him several times arranged to have his car washed by the parking lot attendants.
The other guy is a bachelor and he felt that was an abnormal way to treat a woman whom you professed to love and cherish, I agreed with him because the guy turned his wife into a slave in her own house.
I don’t think it is right for a man to leave all the housework for the woman alone coupled with her responsibility as a wife and mother. If the husband cannot assist directly due to a reason or the other, and the children are not old enough to also lend a helping hand, then he should employ a maid for her; take up the gender roles in the household duties to reduce the work overload on the woman.
Men should remember that how they use/treat their wives has a direct effect on the looks/appearance and health of the woman. Even though the husband is the head of the family, he should be ready to relieve the woman of some of her duties once in a while and also be willing to share the household duties equally with the woman and also adapt his lifestyle to being married just as the woman did.

What a sad world!

My thoughts today are with parents who have lost their child violently through the hands of perverted souls mistakenly labelled as human beings. There is no consoling such people; no amount of words could be enough to douse their bitterness and anger at life for allowing such thing to happen to their child. It pained me that someone somewhere birthed such human garbage and their births were also rejoiced over, probably with a lot of funfair, I wish their parent knew what they would become, maybe they could have done something to prevent these depraved entities from causing so much pain and anguish to innocent families by the brutal murder of their children. What pleasure could an adult get from sexually molesting small children who never understand anything other than to cry for mummy at the slightest pain or inconvenience.
My questions are;
Are such persons human?
What goes through their mind when perpetrating such evil?
Were such people born with paedophilic tendencies or was it developed over the years?
What make some people so cruel, wicked and unfeeling that even the cries that emanate from their victims is not enough to deter them from committing the evil act?
Friends, after reading this story from NAFASG, I could not stop crying at the inhumanity of some people. It could have been any other child from any part of the world, they are everywhere, please lets be very careful with our young ones.
May God protect us all.