Branding with the wedding band.

I can remember the number of times I have argued with my husband about the use of his wedding ring, and it’s always the same answer over and over. Whenever I asked why he does not like to wear it even when I wear my own all the time, his answer is usually, “you need it more than I do”. He said wearing the wedding ring is not the important thing, it is love that matters. He said the use of the ring does not prevent him from being unfaithful, because he simply does not have cause to be unfaithful, whether he wears the ring or not is immaterial.

This issue bothered me until a close friend told me the story of how her lecturer husband has been sleeping around with students and even some of his female co-lecturers. But you need to see the mark the wedding band left on this guy’s finger, without the use of the band itself, the indelible mark is enough to tell you this guy is married. And that’s how he’s been sleeping around with other women while wearing the wedding ring. What seems to be most amazing about these single girls dating married men is the fact that they knew without doubt that the men are married with children and they don’t seem to care.
The same goes for married women who sleep around, they are simply incredible! I often wondered at the men that go into relationship with them, they must be something else too. Such men must have lost all form of decency in order to be able to sleep with another man’s wife no matter how willing or alluring the woman is.
In essence, wedding band or not, it’s the heart that matters, someone could even stamped MARRIED on their forehead for all to see, and still have the morals of an alley cat.
Why then are people so crazy about the wedding ring?
Women especially love to flaunt it, it’s a sign that that they belong to a man.
And the men especially love their wives to wear it because it’s a mark indicating identity or ownership of the women.
I love to use it simply because, it’s a reminder of the love we vowed for each other.

My new venture.

Blogging is good business for those who know how to blog for money. I really don’t see anything wrong in trying to get paid for blogging, if you have the time and what it takes; the only snag is one must know when to draw the line between paid post and your normal post. The whole blog must not be filled up with paid posts. At least your readers must still have something to look forward to apart from paid posts. I like to do paid post because I can have something else to give to readers apart from my main blog subject which is variety and I can also make some cool extra cash along the line which will definitely come in handy as I progress in blogging. This is partly why I have decided to join the Smorty wagon and check out what they have to offer in terms of service and delivery. You never can tell how good the pudding is unless you eat it. Smorty is a service that connects advertisers and bloggers for their mutual benefits, the advertiser pay the blogger to share their opinion on their blogs with a link back to their site. It’s as simple as ABC; I hope I get value for money from this new venture.

Does she have a problem or something?

Sometimes when people tell me about their problems, I can’t help but ask why such a thing should happen to someone that good. I guess life is easier on some than others. I have a lady friend, whom we graduated together (eight years back), when we were in school, we were as close as the proverbial Siamese twins, of course we were in the same department, attend the same fellowship and invariably have the same friends. After graduation we all went our separate ways in search of greener pastures, we did not lose contact however, as she always make my parents home her base whenever she comes to town.
One day I just picked up the courage to ask her why she is not yet contemplating marriage and I was shocked at the response I got. She had been jilted so many times by so called believing brothers that she has now lost faith in relationship with men. You see, brothers will come to her today saying she is God’s will for them and the next day will tell her they were sorry but they were mistaken. I used to know her as a very strong believer who was also very active in fellowship activities, in fact I never thought she was going to have problem with marriage. Her latest courtship failed after the man unsuccessfully tried to travel out of the country in search of greener pasture, he just woke up one day to tell her that in view of all that is happening, he is not yet ready for marriage she should pray for someone else. How very pathetic, my friend is tending towards late 30s.
After this discussion, I felt very sorry for her and being my friend do not want to believe she has a fault that make men run from her. But what could be the problem?

He thought he’s better at it than I am.

As I was hurrying to go out of the office for lunch, I met this man out by the corridor and I was quite surprise to see a visitor at that time of the day because everyone connected to the company knows the rule around here. Once it’s lunchtime, no visitor is allowed into the office area until after. Upon questioning he claim to be an insurance sales man and I just frankly told him that all my insurance needs will be taken care of by Advantage Term Life, whom I have heard are quite dependable when it comes to any form of Coverage for Insurance, for Cheaper Insurance Rates and also for Whole Life Policies. I guess he did not need a second invitation to leave; he disappeared before I could finish my own sales pitch.

It’s a game of chance.

I’m never the type that likes to play games, and anything that involves hazardous uncertainty I’ve always shunned. My attitude is unlike that of my colleague in the office who likes to take unnecessary risks in the hope of gaining an advantage or getting an undeserved benefit. He cruises through the web searching for sites offering gambling or casino information. One of his favourites is fortune room, though his source of information is basically from online casino, I seriously can’t understand why someone will want to wager on something he has not seen or knows virtually next to nothing about. I guess his behaviour stems from being a bachelor without responsibility. For him, it’s good business, but for me it’s something else entirely. Recently my younger brother also got hooked on something similar, he played with his two months salary in the hope of getting double or thrice what he invested, but unfortunately he lost all his money. I guess gambling is not for the fainthearted.

I hate poverty, it makes me unhappy!

Poverty is not good, it is sad and sometimes sickening to observe. Then abject poverty is… (Can’t find the right word to describe it). Poverty is a ruin of ones ego, the poor is shunned by the society, by the neighbours, by friends, by the government and most difficult to swallow by their family. Even children these days shun their parents and eventually abandon them in the hope of cutting off the string that ties them to poverty. A poor person is deserted by everyone he holds dear, ruled over by the rich, the person does not have any say among his peers, it is so sad.
I do not believe that someone could voluntarily wish to be poor, though there may be some issues that the poor person need to address in other to extricate himself or herself from poverty. For instance;

• Laziness
• Refusal to work
• Responsibility greater than one’s income
• Poor money management skills
• Refusal to take up any other job apart from one qualified for
• Being too slow either in action or thought
• Not planning for the future.
• Financial indiscipline
• The fear of failure
• Stinginess etc.

All these and many more could lead to poverty. They cannot afford the basic things like three meals a day, paying hospital bills, they don’t even have a roof over their heads, most exists in the open come rain or sunshine, some survive on items of clothing or food salvaged from waste bins or refuse dumps. When most of us pass them on the road, we try to avoid them like the plague with our well fed bodies clothed in the finest clothing from the top designers. Most even try to shield their children from this reality. I have been guilty of this, which is why I have decided to do this post.
Who has the responsibility of eradicating poverty? The person affected? The society? Or the government?

What a sad world!

My thoughts today are with parents who have lost their child violently through the hands of perverted souls mistakenly labelled as human beings. There is no consoling such people; no amount of words could be enough to douse their bitterness and anger at life for allowing such thing to happen to their child. It pained me that someone somewhere birthed such human garbage and their births were also rejoiced over, probably with a lot of funfair, I wish their parent knew what they would become, maybe they could have done something to prevent these depraved entities from causing so much pain and anguish to innocent families by the brutal murder of their children. What pleasure could an adult get from sexually molesting small children who never understand anything other than to cry for mummy at the slightest pain or inconvenience.
My questions are;
Are such persons human?
What goes through their mind when perpetrating such evil?
Were such people born with paedophilic tendencies or was it developed over the years?
What make some people so cruel, wicked and unfeeling that even the cries that emanate from their victims is not enough to deter them from committing the evil act?
Friends, after reading this story from NAFASG, I could not stop crying at the inhumanity of some people. It could have been any other child from any part of the world, they are everywhere, please lets be very careful with our young ones.
May God protect us all.