Marriage and infidelity

Dictionary.com defined infidelity as marital disloyalty or adultery. But literarily we all know what the word mean. Simply put it is unfaithfulness to a spouse. The sin of adultery is a sin against the marriage of a fellow citizen – it destroys the home and in the ancient world this sin is often referred to as “the great sin”. The Law distinguished between fornication and adultery, the former carried a monetary fine and usually marriage if the father of the young woman involved was willing, while the latter carried a death penalty. The significance of each sin is different and because this is a family site my emphasis will be on adultery.

• Infidelity can lead to divorce which we all know is not an option a Christian should chose.
• There will be dent in trust and intimacy whether one is discovered or not, it changes who you are. The person will go from being a candid, open human being to a secretive, hidden one.
• And one will be deliberately deceitful, lying about what they were doing or where they have been.

Marriages can and do survive affairs, and many become stronger after having weathered the crisis but not without pain and a genuine desire to recommit. Infidelity can happen to anyone either newly married or old in marriage. But we should all know that the Lord has commanded us not to commit adultery Ex. 20:14.In other to avoid infidelity in your marriage, you must be ready to:

• Be protective of your marriage;
  Avoid risky situations such as long lunches with a co-worker or drinks for two after work. Most people do not plan to be unfaithful, it just happened. Avoid unnecessary close friendship with the opposite.
• Be positive;
  Look for what is right in your spouse and tell him or her daily. People who have love affairs are often looking for appreciation and affirmation.
• Be polite;
  Always talk to your spouse with respect. Be careful what you say to each other and how you say it. Show courtesy and caring in the way you treat one another.
• Be playful, and make fun, sex, and humor a mainstay in your marriage.
  Schedule time to play with one another, and have a 'date night? At least once a week. Don’t deny each other the pleasures associated with marriage for any reason as sexual denial has always being one of the primary reasons for infidelity.
  
  THE BEST PREVENTION FOR AN AFFAIR OUTSIDE MARRIAGE IS TO PLAN ONE WITH THE MAN OR WOMAN YOU’RE MARRIED TO!