15 August 2008

Jealousy, the price a loser pays to a winner.

That is not the dictionary meaning of jealousy, just an analogy. The meaning from dictionary.com is jealous resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another's success or advantage itself.

Jealousy is always the fear that something, which we hold dear, will be taken away by another person. Jealousy can apply to every areas of our lives; our jobs, our possessions, fame, business success / acumen, excellent grade, or our reputations, even though the word is more often used to describe the anxiety that comes when we are afraid that the affections of a loved one might be lost to a rival. We fear that our mates, or perhaps our children, will be lured away by some other person who, when compared to us, seems to be more attractive, capable and successful.

If we all agree that all men are not born equal, some have a measure of charisma, which the other lacks. Some have lovable personalities others don’t. I have traits that are quite different from my husband’s and children’s, if I understand this and the fact that when God created us all, he deposited different grace in every one of us, then i will have no reason to be envious, it breeds jealousy. In matt 25:14-30 the master gave talents to all the servants according to their predetermined abilities. This simply tells us that we all have resources, talents, grace and ability to make it and be whoever or whatever we want to be; our success is not dependent on any man except God. I have this understanding and that is why is very easy for me not to be bothered by issues like page rank, links to popular blog, number of visitor and other blogging promotional related issues.

Don’t get me wrong; they are good if they are achieved by pure hardwork and not by copying other successful bloggers posts in other to draw the same traffic to your otherwise unknown blog. Begging for links is also wrong, when I started blogging, I thought the best way to move ahead is by begging bigger blogs for links, some of the big blogs even offer to sell their links in exchange for money, it’s totally wrong! They also started blogging the same way every other blogger started and over time with lots of dedication, self-discipline, hardwork and focus became bloggers to reckon with.

In general, a jealous person feel happy when the rival is experiencing pains, failure, heartbreak, disappointment simply because, what makes the person better than him is being taken away from the person. I read somewhere than the first major sign of jealousy is when it’s easier to show sympathy and weep with those who weep than it is to exhibit joy and rejoice with those who rejoice.

I have learned that if I work hard enough I will get that which is due to me without any struggle other than the hardwork I have invested. I don’t need to envy that which another person has.
A jealous person ends up hurting no one but himself.

Let us take heed.


1 Reaction(s).:

Channelofhealing said...

You are so right Bola, we are all unique in our own ways and am in agrement with you about the whole blogging thing. all we need to do is follow Gods instructionas and we will be happy whichever way it goes for us . . . for we are assured it is the will of God

Godbless you for always speaking your mind

Love you