27 June 2007

Lies, lies, lies.

I have always wondered why people lie. People lie for diverse reasons, some because;
They are afraid of punishment; people often lie to cover up bad habits, manners and evil deeds.
For fear of losing things that are precious to them. Lots of people lie because they don’t want to lose their lives, properties and what have you.They want to deceive others through their assumed cleverness. They want to show that they are smarter than the people they are deceiving.

As a family, it is important that we desist from telling lies as much as possible. We have to live an exemplary life and try to avoid situations where we may be forced to lie. As children of God that know that our God is the God of truth, who is holy without an iota of lie in him, our conscience should prick us whenever we lie.
We should also know that acquisition of wealth, treasure, certificates, visas and the likes through lies is vanity. A family cannot be established through lies and falsehood.

25 June 2007


Our seeds are our children, our heritage from the lord. They are our greatest assets, they are expected to promote our names, support and defend us in our old age. The authority of parents, especially of the father, over children is very great, and we should use this authority as avenue to prepare our children for greatness. It is not all children that were born to be great or be leaders; some are meant to serve while others are to be served.
In preparing children for greatness, it is important that we consider their spiritual development as paramount, because if we have all other form of investment in place and refused to lead them to Christ, it may make rubbish of them. Eunice, who trained her son from his childhood in the knowledge of the Scriptures as recorded in Ac 16:1, should be an example to all mothers. We should train our children to;
  • Know the Scriptures
  • Observe the law of God
  • Show love to parents
  • Attend to parental teaching
  • Make their parent’s hearts glad
  • Know that their obedience to parent is well pleasing to God
  • Take care of parents
  • Honor the aged
  • Live an exemplified life.

Remain bless.

20 June 2007


An institution of higher learning, a school where the two different and separate human beings come together to build a home where love abounds and race, ethnicity and class is totally forgotten.
Marriage as ordained by God at the beginning through Adam and Eve should be viewed as sacred and should be approached with sanctity for those still searching for the right partner. Every husband should be like Uriah, who I named God’s kind of husband whose marital life attracted God’s attention positively and powerfully. Even though he was a peasant soldier, a non-Jew and does not know God or the bible (II Sam12: 1-end) but King David brought his marriage into limelight when he decided to take the poor man’s (Uriah) only ewe lamb (Bathsheba) from him. We all know about Ruth also.
God instituted marriage for certain reasons; all of which we should try not to lose focus of at any time in our marriage. It was ordained for;

For Companionship – God witness Adam’s loneliness in the Garden of Eden, which he confessed to by stating that “it is not good that man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him” Gen. 2:18. Because God knew that loneliness is dangerous and a silent killer, he approved the first marriage in history for this first major reason.

To obey God – in Gen 1:28,the Lord God commanded that we be fruitful, multiply and also replenish the earth. It is not possible that man alone reproduces, there must be a woman, and in other to obey this command, there has to be a marriage.

For propagation – from the above, it is clear that through marriage we are suppose to bear fruit and multiply in other to populate the human race.

For 2+2 to be equal to 1 – Gen 2:24b,that the two shall be one flesh” which remind me of a common saying that two heads are better than one, the man and woman through marriage must become one in other to get good reward for their labour. That is why in a marriage where the couples does not have children yet, it is important that they be in agreement both in action and prayer to be able to get reward for their effort.

The crux of this message is that God created marriage in other that we stay away from fornication and adultery. It is good that every man have his own wife and every woman her own husband. It is true that men and women are born with sexual desires that are normal, good and legit, but these desires are only expected to be satisfied or fulfilled through marriage, any deviation from this is a sin against the body and ultimately against GOD.

Faith Christian Counseling Center Inc.: Beverly Bee Paper - July 2007 Events

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18 June 2007

My kind of Father

My father so loves, ever willing to do all it takes to see that his children are well provided for. When I was growing up, I used to see my dad as very wicked, too much of a disciplinarian, he is the kind of dad that always want to know what you are doing, who you are with, where you are going or coming from, what you did at school, he never was one to spare the rod. As times goes on, I finally begin to understand that he that the father loves he chastise. His kind of father has made me the kind of person I am today. I honestly can tell you I am proud of whom my father has raised me to be.

Daddy, here is saying Thanks for being my dad; I LOVE YOU with all of my heart.

The most valuable legacy a father can leave his children is the legacy of being an upstanding citizen of God’s kingdom both in heaven and on earth. As fathers, your love can make or mar a child; it is your ability to proof your love in all areas of your child’s life, especially when they are good/bad, right or wrong that decides who they will be. Do not withhold your love from them; it is more difficult to raise kids nowadays than before the advents of Internet, computer and technology in general.

As a father, you need to be committed to your children, Be an active listener, know your children inside out, equip them spiritually, be consistent in your attitude and behavior towards them, protect them, provide for all their needs and most importantly love their mother, don’t ever abuse or beat up your wife as this may affect your children both emotionally and psychologically and change their opinion of you.

Finally, be a relevant father, don’t be absent when your children need you, don’t be lacking also in your responsibility towards them, and be fit for your children to mentor. Knowing how much they shall learn from you, scorn places where loose men wallow, be a father that your children will be proud of.

Peace and Love of God.

12 June 2007

Marriage and infidelity

Dictionary.com defined infidelity as marital disloyalty or adultery. But literarily we all know what the word mean. Simply put it is unfaithfulness to a spouse. The sin of adultery is a sin against the marriage of a fellow citizen – it destroys the home and in the ancient world this sin is often referred to as “the great sin”. The Law distinguished between fornication and adultery, the former carried a monetary fine and usually marriage if the father of the young woman involved was willing, while the latter carried a death penalty. The significance of each sin is different and because this is a family site my emphasis will be on adultery.
  • Infidelity can lead to divorce which we all know is not an option a Christian should chose.
  • There will be dent in trust and intimacy whether one is discovered or not, it changes who you are. The person will go from being a candid, open human being to a secretive, hidden one.
  • And one will be deliberately deceitful, lying about what they were doing or where they have been.

Marriages can and do survive affairs, and many become stronger after having weathered the crisis but not without pain and a genuine desire to recommit. Infidelity can happen to anyone either newly married or old in marriage. But we should all know that the Lord has commanded us not to commit adultery Ex. 20:14.In other to avoid infidelity in your marriage, you must be ready to:

  • Be protective of your marriage;
    Avoid risky situations such as long lunches with a co-worker or drinks for two after work. Most people do not plan to be unfaithful, it just happened. Avoid unnecessary close friendship with the opposite.
  • Be positive;
    Look for what is right in your spouse and tell him or her daily. People who have love affairs are often looking for appreciation and affirmation.
  • Be polite;
    Always talk to your spouse with respect. Be careful what you say to each other and how you say it. Show courtesy and caring in the way you treat one another.
  • Be playful, and make fun, sex, and humor a mainstay in your marriage.
    Schedule time to play with one another, and have a 'date night? At least once a week. Don’t deny each other the pleasures associated with marriage for any reason as sexual denial has always being one of the primary reasons for infidelity.


08 June 2007

What the Daddies Can't Afford To Miss

It's true that men are not always the most observant people. They miss a lot of things that they should notice. There are some things they can't afford to miss; especially in the woman they have pledged their lives to - the woman they promised to love, to protect, to honor, and to put first.
The word for today from the Word of God doesn't mention a man and his wife, but it promotes a principle that is fundamental to a strong and lasting marriage. Proverbs 27:23 gives this warning: "Be sure you know the condition of your flocks; give careful attention to your herds; for riches do not endure forever, and a crown is not secure for all generations." Principle: if a man doesn't stay in touch with what's valuable to him, he'll lose what's valuable to him. Let's try this application: "Be sure you know the condition of your wife; give careful attention to the woman in your life."
So often the man is the last to know how badly his wife is hurting. He seems to be the last to know that his marriage is in trouble. Maybe it's because a lot of us have the tendency to ignore warning signs in a relationship; to postpone dealing with those difficult issues; to minimize what doesn't seem that important to us; to deny what we don't want to face. These tendencies to be an ignorer, a postponer, a minimizer, a denier; these tendencies can cause a man to miss things that are slowly destroying the one he loves most.
So when it comes to your marriage, you can't afford to not know the condition of your wife. There's no excuse for neglecting being that kind of observer. But you have to take time - the thing you have the least of - to hear not only her words, but her heart. Because men are bottom-liners, they get impatient with a lot of detail. And it helps if a woman can give an edited version or at least let them know where all this is going! But if you have to listen a lot to get to what's in your wife's heart, that is her language of love. You have to allow time in your life on a regular basis to hear what she cares about, what's hurting her, what she needs, and what she sees that you're missing.
It's all part of being the kind of man God describes in I Peter 3:7, "Husbands, be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect." That includes being attentive to the most important person in your world.
Every husband's commitment and prayer should be; "Lord, may Your voice always be the most important in heaven, and my wife's the most important voice on earth."

06 June 2007

Tribute to Mummies.

By the time the Lord made mothers, he was into the sixth day working overtime. An Angel appeared and said, "Why are you spending so much time on this one?" And the Lord answered and said, "Have you read the spec sheet on her? She has to be completely washable, but not plastic; have 200 movable parts, all replaceable; run on black coffee and leftovers; have a lap that can hold three children at one time and that disappears when she stands up; have a kiss that can cure anything from a scraped knee to a broken heart; and have six pairs of hands."
The Angel was astounded at the requirements for this one. "Six pairs of hands! No Way!" said the Angel. The Lord replied, "Oh, it's not the hands that are the problem. It's the three pairs of eyes that mothers must have!" "And that's on the standard model?" the Angel asked. The Lord nodded in agreement, "Yep, one pair of eyes are to see through the closed door as she asks the children what they are doing even though she already knows. Another pair in the back of the head is to see what she needs to know even though no one thinks she can. And the third pair is here in the front of her head. They are for looking at an errant child and saying that she understands and loves him or her without even saying a single word."
The Angel tried to stop the Lord. "This is too much work for one day. Wait until tomorrow to finish." "But I can't!" The Lord protested, "I am so close to finishing this creation that is so close to my own heart. She already heals herself when she is sick AND can feed a family of six on a pound of hamburger and can get a nine year old to stand in the shower."
The Angel moved closer and touched the woman, "But you have made her so soft, Lord." "She is soft," the Lord agreed, “but I have also made her tough. You have no idea what she can endure or accomplish."
"Will she be able to think?" Asked the Angel. The Lord replied, "Not only will she be able to think, she will be able to reason and negotiate."
The Angel then noticed something and reached out and touched the woman's cheek. "Oops, it looks like you have a leak with this model. I told you that you were trying to put too much into this one." "That's not a leak." the Lord objected. "That's a tear!" "What's the tear for?" asked the Angel. The Lord said, "The tear is her way of expressing her joy, her sorrow, her disappointment, her pain, her loneliness, her grief, and her pride."The Angel was impressed. "You are a genius, Lord. You thought of everything for this one. You even created the tear!" The Lord looked at the Angel and smiled and said, "I'm afraid you are wrong again, my friend. I created the woman, but she created the tear!"

Here is what you need to do.
Show appreciation to that SPECIAL person called MOTHER .Let her know that there is no substitute for her.
Though at times she may not be the best of friends, may not agree to your thoughts, she is still your mother!!! She will be there for you to listen to your woes, your bragging, your frustrations, etc. Ask yourself, have you put aside enough time for her, to listen to her "blues" of working in the kitchen, her tiredness? All she did for YOU in spite of everything that happened to her?

Be tactful, loving and show her due respect though you may have a different view from her.

Because once gone, you'll only have fond memories of the past and also regrets.

04 June 2007

Parent’s duty to their children.

Parents are to receive their children from God with joy and thanksgivings. 1 Sam 1:27 For this child I prayed; and the LORD hath given me my petition which I asked of him.

Our duties are;
· To love them (Tit 2:4) - That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children.
· To bring them to Christ (Mt 19:13) - Then were there brought unto him little children that he should put his hands on them, and pray: and the disciples rebuked them.
· To train them up for God (Pr 22:6) – Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
· To instruct them in God’s word (Deu 11:19) - And ye shall teach them your children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.
· To tell them of God’s judgments (Joe 1:3) - Tell ye your children of it, and let your children tell their children, and their children another generation.
· To tell them of the miraculous works of God (Ex 10:2) - And that thou mayest tell in the ears of thy son, and of thy son's son, what things I have wrought in Egypt, and my signs which I have done among them; that ye may know how that I am the LORD.
· To command them to obey God (De 32:46) - And he said unto them, Set your hearts unto all the words which I testify among you this day, which ye shall command your children to observe to do, all the words of this law.
· To bless them (Heb 11:20) - By faith Isaac blessed Jacob and Esau concerning things to come.
· To provide for them (1 Tim 5:8) - But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
· To correct them (Pr 23:13) - Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
· Not to make unholy connections for them (Ge 28:1) - And Isaac called Jacob, and blessed him, and charged him, and said unto him, Thou shalt not take a wife of the daughters of Canaan.
· Should pray for their children (1 Ch 29:19) - And give unto Solomon my son a perfect heart, to keep thy commandments, thy testimonies, and thy statutes, and to do all these things, and to build the palace, for which I have made provision.

A new addition to my family.

It started out like the usual weekend but this one was quite different because I got to be a proud aunt, what that means is that my younger brother’s wife was delivered of a baby girl. I was so happy and overly excited.
This got me thinking about the miracle of conception and even the more miraculous delivery. The Lord as so made it that from the moment an egg is fertilized, through the time the baby is due, it is well nourished and lacked none of the nutrients essential for its development. All the little details are well taken care of, the baby comes into the world with all the senses and bodily parts well developed and in good working condition.
It is indeed the Lord’s miracle, no wonder it was recorded in the book of Psalms 127:3 that, children are a HERITAGE of the LORD and the fruit of the womb is his reward. Children are simply God’s gift; so let no man take glory over having or not having them - Gen 33:5.
They are capable of glorifying God; and said unto him, Hearest thou what these say? And Jesus saith unto them, Yea; have ye never read, Out of the mouth of babes and sucklings thou hast perfected praise? (Mt 21:16) and Out of the mouth of babes and sucklings hast thou ordained strength because of thine enemies, that thou mightest still the enemy and the avenger. (Ps 8:2)
Children are therefore to be brought to the Lord in dedication; And they brought young children to him, that he should touch them: and his disciples rebuked those that brought them. But when Jesus saw it, he was much displeased, and said unto them, Suffer the little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God.(Matt 10 :13 & 14).No wonder my pastor advised that all children be given their own personal bible by age six.
For as many that desire this blessing, I pray that the Lord of heaven meet you at the point of your need in Jesus name.
Remember, ex 23:26 there shall nothing cast their young, nor be barren, in thy land: the number of thy days I will fulfill. The lord that commanded that we be FRUITFUL, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth (Ge 1:28) we surely visit you (amen).