07 September 2009

Coping with the death of a loved one.

Author Edgar Jackson describes grief as the silent, knife-like terror and sadness that comes a hundred times a day, when you start to speak to someone who is no longer there. It is the emptiness that comes when you eat alone after eating with another for many years. Grief is teaching yourself to go to bed without saying good night to the one who had died. Grief is the helpless wishing that things were different when you know they are not and never will be again. Grief is a whole cluster of adjustments, apprehensions, and uncertainties that strike life in is forward progress and make it difficult to redirect the energies of life.

Losing a loved one is a difficult thing, fewer things in life will ever affect more deeply. The intense pain of loss and the difficulty of facing the future without the other person is much more than a lot of people can bear. To deal with grief, it is advisable to;

Not hold back the tears, as crying will help to ease the pain of loss.

Communicate feelings as keeping the feelings bottled up inside will make it difficult to deal with grief. Prov 12:25 Heaviness in the heart of man maketh it stoop: but a good word maketh it glad.

Talk to close friends because a friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity Prov 17:17Address feelings of guilt if there is any

Talk to God about it. To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, that he might be glorified. Is 61:3


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Anonymous said...

Bola, what an comforting, hopeful and encouraging post. Losing a loved one can be devastating, yet I am so thankful that we serve a Mighty God who can heal the broken hearted and turn our sorrows into joy. Praise be to God. Blessings to you my friend.

Poetic Shutterbug said...

There is absolutely nothing worse than losing a loved one. Though the pain never truly leaves us, it is bearable with faith and hope. A powerful and beautiful post. Thank you.