What the Daddies Can't Afford To Miss

It's true that men are not always the most observant people. They miss a lot of things that they should notice. There are some things they can't afford to miss; especially in the woman they have pledged their lives to - the woman they promised to love, to protect, to honor, and to put first.
The word for today from the Word of God doesn't mention a man and his wife, but it promotes a principle that is fundamental to a strong and lasting marriage. Proverbs 27:23 gives this warning: "Be sure you know the condition of your flocks; give careful attention to your herds; for riches do not endure forever, and a crown is not secure for all generations." Principle: if a man doesn't stay in touch with what's valuable to him, he'll lose what's valuable to him. Let's try this application: "Be sure you know the condition of your wife; give careful attention to the woman in your life."
So often the man is the last to know how badly his wife is hurting. He seems to be the last to know that his marriage is in trouble. Maybe it's because a lot of us have the tendency to ignore warning signs in a relationship; to postpone dealing with those difficult issues; to minimize what doesn't seem that important to us; to deny what we don't want to face. These tendencies to be an ignorer, a postponer, a minimizer, a denier; these tendencies can cause a man to miss things that are slowly destroying the one he loves most.
So when it comes to your marriage, you can't afford to not know the condition of your wife. There's no excuse for neglecting being that kind of observer. But you have to take time - the thing you have the least of - to hear not only her words, but her heart. Because men are bottom-liners, they get impatient with a lot of detail. And it helps if a woman can give an edited version or at least let them know where all this is going! But if you have to listen a lot to get to what's in your wife's heart, that is her language of love. You have to allow time in your life on a regular basis to hear what she cares about, what's hurting her, what she needs, and what she sees that you're missing.
It's all part of being the kind of man God describes in I Peter 3:7, "Husbands, be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect." That includes being attentive to the most important person in your world.
Every husband's commitment and prayer should be; "Lord, may Your voice always be the most important in heaven, and my wife's the most important voice on earth."