07 October 2008

Teach your children to love.

No one is actually an expert when it comes to raising children, all we can do is try to learn from the one who knows best how to raise children (God), so when we talk about raising children the right way, we can only believe that with the help of God we can succeed as parents. But the greatest gift a parent can give to their children is to help them develop respect and a loving attitude towards all people regardless of class, social status, race, tribe, language or state of health.
In other to teach children to love, parents also need to show how much they treasure their own relationship with others starting from the relationship between their parents. Parents that openly display love and affection like telling each other “I love you”, kissing each other often (Not the amorous kind in presence of children) and so on are sending a message to their children that they love and care for each other. Make it a point of duty to also say nice and encouraging words about people, don’t say bad/negative things about others, don’t discriminate or gossip idly and carelessly around them, it sent bad vibes to the children and can portray those people as bad. Keep your reservations about others to yourself or until when they are not present to witness it.
Are you ever jealous? Then be very careful so that your children don’t copy it because love is not jealous. You see, jealousy can occur in a family if the parents favour one child over another, it could cause a problem between them that may be irreparable and can even make them want to hurt each other. It could caused big trouble, so teach your children to avoid giving in to jealous but love one another and even others that are not members of your family.
Above all, the best way to teach children to love is by example, this is so important because, you can’t tell them to love while you hate, love all men, do things that shows you care for people, teach them to be patient with others cause love is patient; teach them to be sensitive and gentle cause love is kind; teach them to be humble in all things because, love is not arrogant, it does not brag or show off.
May God help us we raise great and amazing children .
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8 Reaction(s).:

Enid said...

Hi you are right into saying that it is not easy being a parent. And we as children never realize that until we become parents ourselves. I am glad I happen across your site as it is very informative. I am a mother of 3 and there are times when I can't help but blow my fuse when my children gets too rowdy...God bless you and your family!

Bola said...

Thank you for your comment.I knew being a parent was not easy for my parent back then, so even before i started a family of my own i knew that it will be rough also.My first son is a challenge,but i love him still.God bless you also and every member of your family.

Liza said...

very well said. this is a great article. i agree with enid too, whenever i get angry, i can't help but think this is how my mom felt when i was younger and now my kids are doing it to me, lol.

Louise said...

I really want to teach this to my own children thank you for sharing.

Channelofhealing said...

Sis MAy God bless you as you continue to encourage Parents and keep Praying for me for we are still waiting on the Lord for His blessings

Godbless and love you

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Tammy Warren said...

This is so true...you cannot teach your children without being the example. I fully belove that love is the beginning of everything that can be taught to a child.

Pregnancy Help said...

Great post, children do learn from their parents whether it is positive or negative.