20 March 2009

Mending a broken heart.

At one time or the other we must have had our hearts broken by the people we love and cherish, could be our children, spouses, parent, friends or brothers and sisters. But if you have not had your heart broken, then you are one of the few lucky ones. It hurts and badly too! You could imagine how you will feel to hear that your husband or wife has been seeing someone else. Your children could be engaging in activities that are contrary to your believe, for example a teenage girl getting pregnant out of wedlock of course, will surely break the heart of her parent who have plans for her future. Such hearts need to be mended and fast too, to avoid further damage to the mind and soul of such persons.
The big question is: how do we mend a broken heart?
A broken heart could be mended in the following ways;
1. Keep busy, occupy your spirit, soul and body. Don’t mop around thinking about what might have been. Idleness could make you do things that may result in more heartache, depression and frustration. Do something that take your mind off the problem or better still help someone to get through a difficulty. Just make sure you’re busy so you don’t have time to think about your own problems, with time you will forget.
2. Be good to others, do good. Don’t because someone hurt you repay other with evil, two wrongs don’t make it right. Wish the other person well so that you will not always carry the burden of bitterness around you. Don't wish something horrible would happen to him or her; rather hope for their good fortune and it just may release your blessings also. Sometimes some of these things happen to us for a purpose
3. Take time out to do those things you have always wanted to do but never have the time or the opportunity. Treat yourself to a nice surprise, make yourself happy, and put your life back on track.
4. Be thankful to be alive, the dead don’t feel pain, they know no hurt or anguish, praise God for making you one of the blessed people in the world because your life is not over, you can actually live without those who hurt you and even be happier without them around you.
You will overcome the hurt, rejection, pain, sorrow, bitterness and loneliness only if you tell the heartbreak to move over so you can continue with the rest of your life.

4 Reaction(s).:

valerie lynn said...

Bola, your words are so very true. A broken heart is hard to mend yourself, but when your surrender yourself to God and let Him mend the areas which need to be mended, in His time everything works out. I have had my heart broken many times and I am so grateful that I had God to help me through.

Beautiful advice!

Thanks for your comment on my blog. You are truly a friend indeed.


Shinade said...

Like my mother always said..."Two wrongs never make a right!" Bola it was so good to hear from you!!

You always seem to pop up just when I am at my lowest and need a lift.

I hope all is well for you and your family.

Now, I have you marked again with EC...I will be addicted to visiting!!

Much love and blessings,

Bola said...

@Valerie - You're welcome and thanks also for stopping by.

Bola said...

@Shinade - Thanks for your visit and contribution also.Your mum is very right, two wrongs can never make a right.Everytime you stop by, i always feel a moral boost thanks for coming and i will also be visit often now.