MumsDadsChildren Star Award! !! !!!

This is unbelievable! I just had some extra time to play off web today and you can’t believe I came up with something extra ordinary, for me it is extraordinary because I have never been artistic in anyway, cant draw anything other than engineering drawings and those were basically lines. I just put together one or two images in PowerPoint, a little editing here and there and I have what I want. I never knew it could be that simple. Now I have my own award to give to deserving friends and readers of this blog, been looking for a way to show some appreciation apart from leaving comments on blog and I think this is it in my own little way.

The star award, simply created for bloggers, whose presence have been felt on MumsDadsChildren, who has been a constant source of inspiration and encouragement to this blog.

The recipient can pass it on to whoever deserves to have it, there is no strict rule, just a mention on your blog will be appreciated.

Here are the recipients;

Channelofhealing
Anijawife
NaijaECash
Realities
Nigeriancuriosity
Clement Nyirenda’s
LoveWorld
RefinedOne
The Painted Veil

More to Come.

Is childlessness enough reason for break-up?

Readers please assist to give reasonable answers to this topic. A friend asked me yesterday if she should divorce her husband and look for love elsewhere since it seems they are not destined to have children together. This kind of question I don’t usually like to give answers to simply because I don’t want to be quoted. So I simply asked her to go to God in prayer and not be deceived by the circumstances surrounding her presently, as she never can predict God.

She got married seven years back and since there has never been a pregnancy, not even for a day. They have both visited various doctors, who certified them okay, but then nothing seems forth coming and the in-laws are getting restless and also insinuating all sorts of things. The issue came to a climax when she overheard her hubby’s parent telling their son to look for children elsewhere because the wife is a “male pawpaw” that is, a barren woman. This made her decide to also look elsewhere for a solution before she is unceremoniously dumped.

I am of the opinion that only God gives children, they are gifts from him and if he has not decided to bestow that blessing on someone, then, there is nothing anyone can do about it.

Genesis 16:2; so she said to Abram, "The LORD has kept me from having children. Go, sleep with my maidservant; perhaps I can build a family through her." Abram agreed to what Sarai said.

Genesis 29:32 Leah became pregnant and gave birth to a son. She named him Reuben, for she said, "It is because the LORD has seen my misery. Surely my husband will love me now."

Genesis 30:1-3
When Rachel saw that she was not bearing Jacob any children; she became jealous of her sister. So she said to Jacob, "Give me children, or I'll die!" Jacob became angry with her and said, "Am I in the place of God, who has kept you from having children?" Then she said, "Here is Bilhah, my maidservant. Sleep with her so that she can bear children for me and that through her I too can build a family."
These two women suffered the consequences of their action simply because they both could not wait for God to do it at his own time.

Please, take time to drop a word of advice.

Shalom!

Homosexuality and Gay marriages.

The word gay from oxford dictionary means first, of homosexuals or for homosexuals, second: careless, without worries and third: happy and full of life. While homosexuality is sexual desire or behavior directed toward a person or persons of one's own sex.

Now talking about marriage, the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc. and by its nature, it is ordered towards the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of the offspring. Hence man and woman was ordained to live in love and share love with each other, it is divine and not man-made.

From the aforementioned, it is crystal clear that the coinage of the words GAY and MARRIAGE is contradictory and in fact outside the normal. This implies that both words are irreconcilable because gayism is homogenous – between those of opposite sex; but the sense of marriage is outside the context of homosexuality because there is no point of agreement as they have different aims and in the same vein different means and end.

Gen 1:27-28, so God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: if God had intended the so called same sex marriage, he would have as well leave man lonely without creating a woman and device his own supernatural way of multiplying the earth. Remember, the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah was because of the sin of homosexuality, Leviticus 18:22, Thou shall not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination and Lev 20:13, If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.

Conclusively, the battle against this disease, (because I see it as a disease) involves every right thinking individual who still have some moral preservation. It is our duties to educate and counsel those who seem to be disposed towards this ugly and awkward act. Rather than allowing them to influence us, let us work together to influence the perverted ones among us.

Good must be done and evil must be totally avoided.

Shalom!

The Negative Scoreboard

A scoreboard is a board on which one displays scores in a contest. Score keeping to most people is like winning their opponent in a game, usually a game of rivalry. We tend to keep scores with people around us, like members of our families, friends, and relatives. Score keeping is a trait that shows that we do not love the other person the way we should. If we have God’s kind of love for one another, it should cover up a multitude of sin, which the other person may commit, i.e. Agape love overlooks any sin, shortcoming and mistakes of the other person. I Peter 4:8 says, And above all things have fervent love among yourselves: for love shall cover the multitude of sins. The man, who wrote those words, experienced this kind of forgiving love himself. Remember he totally let his Lord down, denied Him three times in Jesus' greatest hour of need, but he found that Jesus did not hold that against him. In fact, when he finally got together with Peter individually after His resurrection, Jesus said, "Do you love me?" That's all He wanted to know.

We tend to keep score in our relationships, we rack up a negative point when someone fails us, or hurts us, or slights us, or in any way blows it. It was Peter who asked Jesus how many times he was expected to not score things someone did against them, to forgive them. Jesus said, "Seventy times seven." Let it go 490 times! By that time, who's counting anymore? (Matt 18:21-22)

Maybe a relationship of yours is suffering because you've been keeping score with your mate, your son, your spouse, your daughter, or your parent? Maybe you've been racking up points against your friend, or your co-worker, or that person at church? And when they do something that bothers you or hurts you, you figuratively roll your eyes and say, "There they go again." And you put another mark against them on your negative scoreboard. In fact, those marks ultimately become a negative filter through which you view everything that person does. They can't do anything right - even their good is explained away or it's unrecorded because it doesn't fit your negative grid. Now, could it be that you keep bringing up those negatives, especially to make your point? Someone you're supposed to love may be drowning in your critical comments, your judgmental attitude, and your negative assumptions.

Well, that's how Jesus is treating you, and now He's asking you to treat other people with that same kind of grace and mercy. Not to treat them in the way that they have treated you, but to treat them in the way that Jesus has treated you - and Jesus has had a lot more to forgive than you ever will. Colossians 3:13 say, forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.

It's time to put the scoreboard away isn't it?

John 9:9 some said; this is He: others said; He is like him: But He said; I am He.

What a great testimony. I was pondering this verse of the bible after listening to a ministration in which that verse of the scripture was used. I immediately started to prophecy such good tidings into my life, such a miracle that people that knew me before will not know me again. The explosive miracle, such that when others are doubting the transformation, only I will say “don’t worry, it is me!”

Such is the act of God, he is forever in control, and because God is God, then nothing happens without His knowledge and permission. While it is difficult to imagine why God allows some painful things to happen, His character revealed in the Bible and through the testing of generations, leads us to the conclusion that He is willing and able to sustain you during the worst of times. "We were crushed and completely overwhelmed, and we thought we would never live through it. In fact, we expected to die. But as a result, we learned not to rely on ourselves, but on God who can raise the dead." (2 Corinthians 1:8,9).

See, whatever we suffer now is nothing compared to the Glory He will give us later." (Romans 8:18) "He will keep you strong right up to the end, and He will keep you free from all blame on the great day when our Lord Jesus Christ returns.” 1 Corinthians 1:8. He has not given up on you! So don't give up on him also. Remember, he said in Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you," says the Lord. "They are plans for good and not for evil, to give you to an expected end." Ask God to reveal His purpose in allowing this difficulty in your life. That's a legitimate question to ask. Often, the answer comes in the process of dealing with your circumstance. Whenever trouble comes your way, let it be an opportunity for joy. For when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grows, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be strong in character and ready for anything." James 1:2-4.

Think of Joseph's betrayal by his brothers, it lead him to an exalted position in the Land of Egypt. If he were not so persecuted he would not have attained such a glorious post and we probably will never have heard about him, Genesis 50:19,20.
Are you going through tough times, terrible pains, are you deaf, dumb or blind like that man in John 9:9, then today I believe you will sing a new song of hope and people that knew you before will not know you again after the Lord Jesus is through working on you. Then you will those that doubt, that I am The ONE.

Further Reading HERE and HERE

What Happens When Love Waxes and Wanes?

The phenomenon of Love shall till the end of time remain a mystery, two people crossed each other’s path and decided without outside interference that they will love and cherish each other till the end of time. But due to reasons best known to them, both suddenly upped and decided to go their separate ways, without giving any thought to how it was, how it could be if only they could work things out and how it is going to be out there without their other half.

Most couples after separation never do really find the peace and happiness that they seek. Some have even confessed that they wished they had work things out rather than leaving. Rather interesting, a case of the devil you know is better than an angel you have not seen.

So, what happens when love waxes and wanes?

Renew it!

Start the renewal process before things get out of hand.

How do I know when love begins to wane?

The signs are always there, they never change, though it varies from couple to couple, some of them are ;

• Avoiding intimacies with each other, especially sexual intimacy. The other person suddenly seems like a different person, he/she no longer appeals to you in anyway.
• Certain things you previously desire about the person now seem irritating. Everything he/she does make you angry.
• You can no longer stand the sight of the person, whenever you are in each other’s presence one or both of you easily gets provoked by what the other is saying/doing.
• Prefer other peoples company to being with each other. Both make great effort to avoid contact.
• Little things you do for each other now become a burden.
• You both have secrets that the other does not know.
• Outsiders have first hand information about recent happenings in your life, when your partner is denied such info.

Renewal:
Being in love is a good thing, but it is not the best thing. There are many things below it, but there are also things above it. You cannot make it the basis of a whole life. It is a noble feeling, but it is still a feeling. Now no feeling can be relied on to last in its full intensity, or even to last at all.... In fact, the state of being in love usually does not last.... But of course ceasing to be ‘in love’ need not mean ceasing to love. Love...is a deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by the grace which both partners ask and receive from God.... They can retain this love even when each would easily, if they allowed themselves, be ‘in love’ with someone else. ‘Being in love’ first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep their promise. It is on this love that the engine of marriage is run: being in love was the explosion that started it.

• Pledge your love continually and for as long as both of you are alive.
• Shower each other with compliments
• Spare no efforts to please him/her
• Do things that tell/show your partner that you love him/her unconditionally, uncritically and sacrificially. Phil 1: 9
• Be selfless, be thoughtful more so at a time like this.
• Once in awhile, surprise each other with gifts, things you know your husband or wife will cherish.
• Go out of your way to be as kind, considerate, and generous as possible.
• Tell your partner how much he/she means to you, and show appreciation at every available opportunity because the ability to love is established not so much by fervent promise as often repeated deeds.
• Lastly, Pray that God rekindle your love.

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World Greatest Mum and Awesome Site Awards.

Award to me is just like someone saying A JOB WELLDONE! Often times when I am given an award I am happy regardless of the award’s type or value. I believe it is the awardees way of telling the recipient your efforts are recognised. Two people have just recently passed me an award each; I am so blessed to have friends who remember me even when I was absent on the net.

Award No.1

World Greatest Mum from Ejiro of Love Angle. She got the award from Emilia




Award No. 2






Awesome site Award from Channelofhealing who also received the award from hwy777.






Very many thanks to you both for these wonderful awards.