Secrets to keep your marriage brimming from now on.

In year 2008, it is my dream that all marriages be better than before, all homes like heaven on heart. This is possible with a few efforts from parties involved. Husbands must be ready to put in their quota while the wives must be more than willing to make the best out of their marriage. There are a few secrets I gathered here and there over the holiday period both from watching other couples both old and young and also from personal experience.

No 1 secret;

Know that marriage is sacred and a long-term commitment which must not be broken.

No 2

Have the earnest desire to make your marriage a success, never think otherwise and because it takes two to tango, it is the responsibility of both couple.

No 3

Like your spouse as a person, laugh with them, make he/she your best friend and your confidant.

No 4

Always admit you’re are wrong and also learn not to hammer too much on the fact that you’re right whenever you are. In fact, in some situation, it is better to keep quiet.

No 5

Don’t be selfish, always have your spouse best interest at heart and consider he/she first and foremost.

No 6

Agree on tasks and targets /aims and goals for the family.In other words,make decisions together.

No 7

Never allow third party intervention in your relationship like your close friends, in laws etc. settle all dispute among yourself and don’t sleep over it.

No 8

Be proud of his/ her achievements.

No 9

Understand your spouse, communicate with each other at all level.

and finally, Love your spouse as they are and try as much as possible to satisfy each other’s basic need.

Be blessed and happy this year and beyond.

Hello and Happy New Year!

Hi friends and readers, happy New Year to you all. I am glad to be back from vacation and resume blogging. I sure know my absence has been felt. I pray that this year shall be a year of prosperity, greatness, and good health for us all. It will also be a year that every valley in our lives shall be exalted, all hills be lowed, all the crooked places be made straight and rough places be smooth. Compliments of the season to you all. I have missed every one of you. Be blessed in 2008.

"Time Off"

I will be proceeding on my annual leave from Monday 10th Dec 2007 through first week of Jan 2008, though I don’t intend to take time off blogging but posting may not be regular because I’ll be travelling and may not have access to the web most of the time. It’s a much-deserved time off work and I get to spend time with my husband and son and take also take my son round to fun places for his holiday. For some time now spending time together as a family as been difficult, what with work, weekly activities at the church, housework, cooking etc. if not for my husband who has been so helpful, it has not been easy at all and that is why we all deserve the time together. At least for this period, we all take a holiday and leave all the cooking and cleaning for someone else.
Please bear with me. Meantime there are lots of interesting posts in the archive (May, June, July, Aug, Sept, Oct) of this blog, please be free to check them out. Your comments, messages and contributions are very welcome.
Thanks for your time.

A shout-out to my friends.

This is no tag, neither is it a meme. I just want to appreciate some friends of this blog and let them know their contributions, comments, criticism, encouragement, useful informations, corrections etc have been highly appreciated. Without you all MumsDadsChildren would not have been here today. I have had a long thought about this and I just decide to do this at Christmas. How I wish I could create a friends award to give to you guys, you have all been marvellous.

You see; when I got Saved by Jesus, it was as if I was Caught in the Stream but I thought to myself “this is a miracle” I have long waited for. Even though I don’t know where I’m from but I knew where I was heading, to Explore the realities of Events.

This may sound like something out of a Very short novel, but it is indeed what I need as a Woman walking in wisdom’s footstep, a Woman: God’s masterpiece, a woman full of Wits and Wisdom of God, a Weighty Lady, My ability to do glorious things When least expected earned me The painted veil, which I will wear to see Oluwayinka, Omodudu, and Nijawife, after Santa Claus’s visit at Christmas. At the Book project I learnt that I am indeed a proverbs 31 woman wannabe, why? Because I have spread the Love angle not only in having a Marriage God’s way but in Harmonious glow writings.

Know it that I am a RefinedOne, a member of Mommy’s make money, a friend of EbonnyMommy, an Electronic Villager, I Feel happy at the thought of getting a Bloggy Award even though I have been Homesick for abroad, thanks to thenigerianstudent who gave me directions to Channelofhealing where I got Nuggets of Gold for my hard work. But trust Phonics to tell me Suzanne says there is A tale as old as time at Telenovela stories dot com and because The spirit knows best, I head over to the Joke blog where I satisfied my Nigerian curiosity. I had to Fuelmyblog to be able to meet my appointment with Clement. I guess My life is Murphy’s law because I have to decide One man’s goal using the Single mother’s survival guide I borrowed from BeccaGirl. Whoa, this seems to be pretty long and I have not even started. What to do now? I think I will ask Nafasg for help.

HIV/AIDS?

Few months back I had to go to the clinic for antenatal registration, and at the end of it I was given such a huge bill that I had to exclaim. But upon questioning the accounts clerk I was given the breakdown of the payment and I was so surprise to see HIV/AIDS test boldly written on the receipt. This gave me a scare because it never really occurred to me that you have to do such tests when you go in for such registration. Maybe I was told and I was like, that does not have anything to do with me! So I didn’t pay attention to it. But believe me, after I left the clinic, even though I have no reason to be bothered, I kept wondering about it and I could not wait until my next visit to ask for the outcome. Sure it was negative, as I knew it was going to be.

But then I remembered the story of a sister, who got married to a fellow brother in her church, they were both born again xtians, nobody need to tell you they were before you know, they were serious xtians. Immediately after their marriage, the lady took in and delivered. After some months she started falling sick, it was so serious that she had to be transferred from one hospital to another until she finally landed at a teaching hospital where she was diagnosed with HIV. When she was questioned about her sexual life she was at first very angry and refused to answer their questions because she was a virgin when she got married and never had sexual relation with any other person except her husband. The husband and child were tested and both tested positive.

Then the question of who gave who arose, both claimed they have been faithful. Few months after this, the wife died and later the child, still the man kept mute and tongues started wagging about the sister been the perpetrator since she died first. Then the man developed symptoms too and it was on his deathbed he confessed that when the wife was pregnant at the early stage and could not fulfil her marital obligations, he had to look elsewhere for sex because he was so used to it then that abstinence was difficult for him to cope with. Imagine that!

Saturday 1st Dec 2007, is another world’s AID day, how do you feel about this? Some don’t believe AIDS is real, some believe they cannot have it, while others don’t think it’s worth a second thought. But please hear this, people that are afraid of confronting the issue of AIDS are usually the ones to be infected simply because of their non-committal attitude towards it. To read more about HIV/AIDS, visit this link.

Be blessed and please live a healthy life.

Here we go again!

This seems to be the season of awards; I also received some awards from Channelofhealing. The blog has been a great source of inspiration to me especially in the area of healing. At COH, you will receive healing to your body, Soul and refreshment to your inner self (Spirit), thanks for these awards.

Mathetes Award created by Dan King;

This I gladly pass to: SavedbyJesus,

RefinedOne,

PastorLScott,

NYCindividual,

Houseofvirtue.

Nice matters award created by Bob;

This goes to; Franscud,

Ejiro,

Janiceng,

Constructicle Boy,

Wits & Wisdom,

A Naijawife.

This was created by PrudentMusings.

And this is for,SavedbyJesus,

Shinade,

Manchild,

Nuggets of Gold.

Be blessed.

A Silver Bloggyaward.

MumsDadsChildren has won a Silver Award from Bloggyaward, this came as a total surprise to me, and I want to use this opportunity to say a very big thank you to Bloggyaward for the review. Here is the review, dedicated to all friends and readers of this blog.

MumsDadsChildren “Marriage, parenting, and the act of truly great and amazing kids.” This is what MumsDadsChildren is all about. It sounds like the toughest job in the world to me!

Visual Aesthetics - 8
The tan and beige color scheme gives an understated look to the whole blog. Pictures could help in sprucing up the looks of the blog, though. These would also break up the long blocks of texts that are not really all that pleasing to the eyes.

User Friendliness - 9
Navigation is pretty easy. The links are all on the right hand column and are well-organized. The only thing that may cause a little bit of an inconvenience is the small size of the font. The paragraphs are also bunched together, making it a bit hard to read.

Reading Enjoyment - 9
The posts are generally well written and easy to read. The topics are varied and are easy to relate to, generally. There is a sprinkling of paid posts, some of which are enjoyable.

Useful Info - 9
The blog is full of insights and ideas that couples, parents, and even singles can relate to. I am sure that other readers find the information from this blog as useful and insightful as I do.

Overall Experience - 9
Aside from the slight lack in visual terms, this blog is one that has a lot of good content to offer. Anyone interested in relationships and parenting should pay this blog a visit.