22 November 2007

Children’s Lack of Discipline.

Lack of control or restrain is so common in our society today and I really don’t know whom to hold responsible for this. Is it the mother’s fault? Or is the father lacking in his responsibility to the child? Could it be the child refused to listen to reason? Where did the problem originate? This is one seemingly intractable problem in most families today.

Indiscipline manifests in such areas as examination malpractices, secret cult menace, unprotected sex, unwanted pregnancies, bribery and corruption, prostitution (both male and female now). There are crisis everywhere you turn in the society as a result of undisciplined youths, most parents neglect the care of their children in search of greener pastures or better prospects and by the time they get their breakthrough, they are total strangers to their children who have become uncontrollable and distant.

Most parents today leave their children in the care of maids and child sitters or sometimes to their own devices thinking they are old enough to take care of themselves, they come in from their place of work only to rush out to meet with their charity group, their club friends, attend dinner at friends house and so on thinking all is well until something otherwise happen.

Parents should take up the challenge of raising God fearing, obedient and disciplined children, this will better our own lives, give us peace in our old age and make the world a better place for everyone to live in. Think of it, there will be little or no perversion, rape, kidnapping for whatever purpose, robbery, smuggling, corruption, drugs etc. In other to achieve this, you can;

  • Teach him to pray as soon as he/she can speak or old enough to understand what prayer means.
  • Correct cruelty to others either human or animal,
  • Tell the child not to lie or correct a lie whenever it is uttered, do not punish a fault that is freely confessed, but never allow a disobedient act to go unpunished.
  • Teach them to love others always as themselves,
  • Don’t give them room to satisfy their own desires or adhere to their own opinions, it could lead to selfishness or destructive habit when denied,
  • Give him whatever he politely asks for, if it’s good for him but deny him whatever he cries for whether it is good for him or not.
  • Don’t make empty promises or promises you know you cannot fulfill, honor every promise you make to them.
  • Commend them when well behaved and reward when necessary.

Remember Prov 22:6, train up a child in the way he should go, when he is old, he will not turn from it.

Be blessed.

3 Reaction(s).:

Bro. Tee said...

Children's lack of discipline, who is to blame? I will humbly say, blame the parents. Yes. God commended Abraham that He knows that Abraham will teach his children to follow after Jehovah.
Too many would be parents have never given a thought to the immense responsibility that accompanies parenthood. Very often, the parents are the major contributor to what a child turns out to be as an adult.
There effort or lack of commitment to instilling discipline in the child ends up paying huge dividend not only to the family but to the society at large.
Unfortunately, would-be parents are yet being left alone to discover for themselves what parenthood is all about!

anijawife said...

We are all guilty in this-parents,society,school etc,just that the bulk goes to the parent.We all belief where in modern age where kids should be treated like adult inthe name of civilisation and bcos they know,they can always play on the parent,they get away with just any behaviour.Look around and you see the ruts everywhere but my bible says teach your child the way he/she should go and will never depart from there,we need to inculcate the fear of GOd in our kids and the word of God should be digest like food and water bcos thats the only way we can save the youth from self destruction.

Koala Gal said...

Congragulations to your blog awards!

I have been referred to this blog by BroTee's blog.

Parenting issues, my interest.
I do have a strong faith about discipline as I am from such a family. I am grateful to my mom for her reasoned and strict discipline to cultivate me as a responsible adult.

Parenting style of my parents:
http://vincijesus.blogspot.com/2007/11/parenting-style-my-parents.html

May Jesus be our head of household!
Blessings!