Laziness

This is aversion or disinclination to work, activity, or exertion; indolent. A lazy person exhibits slothfulness, indolence, and often times, sluggish. Personally, I detest laziness and do not really want any form of association with a lazy person. People generally despised and condemn any person known to be lazy.

Like all other vices, laziness is first contrived in the mind before it manifest outwardly. A lazy person sets up barriers within his mind to justify his not doing what he was supposed to do. Such people think the world owes them a living, and if by mistake they put a little effort in something, they feel they have done their own bit. They are wise in their own eyes thinking that hardwork does not pay; others blame the government for their status or lack of it. The funny part is that, lazy people have higher desire for things (clothes, praise, food, cars etc.) compared to hardworking people. And when those desires cannot be met, they resort to cut corners to get what they want.

Laziness could lead to robbery, theft, prostitution, and fraudster’s aka 419 because an idle mind is the devil’s workshop. Lazy people hardly get jobs and even when they do, it does not last because they are sure to be fired as soon as their character become known.

Because of the idle state of their unoccupied mind, they are prone to gossip, poke into other people’s affair, they loiter, trespass and all sorts of unimaginable things. Parents should teach their children to be hardworking, but of course, the best way to teach is by example. So be a hard worker so your children can emulate you.

Hardwork precedes excellence; hard work is the only sure way to have good success.

Remember, there is dignity in labour.

Love is for real men.

"My beloved is dazzling and ruddy, Outstanding among ten thousand- Songs of Sol. 5:10

Love is the life of a marriage. The parties involved must give it full attention and must never on any account be negligent.

Men are everywhere, but real men who are good husband materials are scarce. Love differentiates mere men from real men, real men are custodians of love, and they demonstrate love to their wife and children, they do not neglect them in favour of other things or people. Only real men are worthy to get married or be referred to as husbands or fathers. It takes a real man to shun all vices in other to remain true and faithful to his wife.

A husband is expected to love his wife just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it. If a man loves his wife, he does not do anything without revealing it to her, whether she will approve of it or not because they have been made one by the arithmetic of marriage, 1+1=1.

One major way a man can demonstrate his love towards his children is by loving their mother unconditionally and unequivocally. When a man really loves his wife, he confides in her everything he does and never makes room for any skeleton to be in his cupboard. One of such skeleton is extra marital affair.

Here are a few ways a real man can physically show love to his wife.

A man should always treat his wife like an endangered species. Always remembering that she is special and irreplaceable, one of a kind.

A man should love his wife through thick and thin, because she needs his support and strength.

His wife’s wishes and needs should take priority over all else.

A man should tell his wife where he can be reached when away, this is very important to a woman.

Make it a point of duty to tell others of your wife’s good points, the rest his private and should be kept in the cooler (i.e. private.)

Take time away from work to spend with your wife alone. You know, get to know each other all over.

Do not compare your wife to any other, an old girlfriend, your mother or sister, because is she not any of them, she is unique.

Treat your wife as if you were still dating.

Let her know everyday, how thankful you are for her because women love being complimented.

Always look at her through the eyes of love.

Surprise her with gifts, things you know she will adore.

Pray with her, and for her.

Most importantly, have an affair with her!

It’s been awhile.

I am very sorry to have to be absent without a reason; it was due to a circumstance far beyond my control. But I thank God because things will soon normalise.



Hope everybody has been well? Thanks to Jackie of the painted veil for tagging me with the peace meme, I will do it ASAP.


I also wish to thank Enid of callcentremomie for tagging me with the seven about me, I will also respond to this ASAP.


Thanks to you all for stopping by in my absence and for EC advertisers, a mention is not really enough but that is all I can think of right now to compensate.


You all have a wonderful day.


Shalom!

Blog Action Day 2008: Should Poverty be a way of life?

Poverty is the state or condition of having little or no money, goods, or means of support; condition of being poor; indigence. In as much as we all know that poverty is not good and nobody ever prayed to be poor, except in the spirit where it is counted as humility, otherwise it is like living life without a purpose. Or of what purpose is a life when as a parent, you watch your children die of hunger because there is no food to feed them with or sickness for lack of money to pay for hospital bills. Of what purpose is a life that clothed itself in rags whether the weather is cold or hot.

A lot of people are living in poverty either as a result of their own making, or some others because of circumstances beyond their control. Poverty has been known to be the major reason why there are so many crimes in our world today. People resort to criminal activities as a means to an end. Both men and women, boys and girls all over the world have been known to go into prostitution simply because poverty pushed them into it. Parents have even been known to send their underage children into the labour market just to contribute to the family upkeep instead of their being sent to school. Some of these children have been known to fall into the wrongs hands who will lure them into petty stealing, used them as informants/ baits for armed robbery operations, some have been kidnapped and used for rituals, others have been sexually and physically abused in the process.

Should poverty be a way of life? No!

The people that have should help those that do not have. When you give to the needy around you, aside the popular believe that when you give, you will be given in return or blessed by God, you will be helping to better a life, you will be giving hope to someone whose been treated poorly, been made to feel that he/she never measure up, been rejected, defeated, whom people have undervalued, passed up, tagged a loser, been hurt pretty bad and is now hard and angry inside.

Help to better a life today, Isaiah 61:1; the spirit of the sovereign LORD is upon me, because the LORD has chosen me. He has commissioned me to encourage the poor, to help the brokenhearted, to decree the release of captives, and the freeing of prisoners.

Overcoming family debts.

Debt is something that is owed or that one is bound to pay to or perform for another. Debt could result from borrowing; it could be from unredeemed pledges and vows, or from buying things on credit. Borrowing is an act of taking something that belongs to another to use with the hope of repaying at a latter time, it results into debt. It is not a sin to borrow, when you borrow in good faith with the hope of paying back what you owe.

One may be forced to borrow to ensure that his/her family does not go hungry especially when things are a bit down for the breadwinner. It is only wrong to borrow to buy clothing items, luxuries like a car, TV sets or borrow to host a party especially when you know you don’t have a hope of paying back. One can borrow for business when you have faith in yourself that you could make a success of that business and you know that you are disciplined enough to use the money for that purpose. Borrowing for business is taking a risk,so one must seriously consider the cons and pros of such a venture before embarking on it.

Borrowing could be as a result of:

• Lack of contentment
• Inability to set priorities right;Covetousness
• Poverty
• Necessity – school fees, house rents, bills; hospital, utility etc.
• People also borrow when their expenditure is much more than their income.

Effects of Debt:

• Public embarrassment or disgrace;
• The borrower will lack peace of mind because debt hunts;
• Terminal problems or sickness such as hypertension; migraine; headache; heart attack etc may result from too much thinking;
• Enslavement; a debtor will be a slave to his creditors;
• A debtor may not be able to move freely for fear of running into the person he /she is indebted to.

Solution:

• Learn to control internal urgings, appetite and those things that push one into unnecessary spending;
• Maintain a proper budgeting habit;
• Cry out to people who could help sort out issues and also offer valuable ideas for a better way of life;
• If one way failed, looked for other right or legal ways to make a living. Or start a business of your own;
• Look inward; you may have an idea that could spring things up, constantly be on the lookout for opportunities around you;
• Pray.

Shalom!

Another Blog Award - Butterfly award for the coolest blog I ever know.

My friend Shinade at the Painted Veil gave this awesome award to mumsdadschildren. This is just so cool. Thanks Liza of Mums check nyo and Shinade for this award and congratulations once again for being the earlier recipients.

The rules are quite simple;

You pick ten people and pass this award to them.

Then contact them and let them know that you have chosen them and their blog for the award.

Also link back to the person who gave you the award.

Here are my picks for this award:

Emily Grace

Simply Euphoric

Symphony of Love

Karen & Gerard Zemek

A Family Man

A Mother's Guide to Sanity

 Tosin Emmanuel

Channelofhealing 

Louise

Anna

Teach your children to love.

No one is actually an expert when it comes to raising children, all we can do is try to learn from the one who knows best how to raise children (God), so when we talk about raising children the right way, we can only believe that with the help of God we can succeed as parents. But the greatest gift a parent can give to their children is to help them develop respect and a loving attitude towards all people regardless of class, social status, race, tribe, language or state of health.

In other to teach children to love, parents also need to show how much they treasure their own relationship with others starting from the relationship between their parents. Parents that openly display love and affection like telling each other “I love you”, kissing each other often (Not the amorous kind in presence of children) and so on are sending a message to their children that they love and care for each other. Make it a point of duty to also say nice and encouraging words about people, don’t say bad/negative things about others, don’t discriminate or gossip idly and carelessly around them, it sent bad vibes to the children and can portray those people as bad. Keep your reservations about others to yourself or until when they are not present to witness it.

Are you ever jealous? Then be very careful so that your children don’t copy it because love is not jealous. You see, jealousy can occur in a family if the parents favour one child over another, it could cause a problem between them that may be irreparable and can even make them want to hurt each other. It could caused big trouble, so teach your children to avoid giving in to jealous but love one another and even others that are not members of your family.

Above all, the best way to teach children to love is by example, this is so important because, you can’t tell them to love while you hate, love all men, do things that shows you care for people, teach them to be patient with others cause love is patient; teach them to be sensitive and gentle cause love is kind; teach them to be humble in all things because, love is not arrogant, it does not brag or show off.

May God help us we raise great and amazing children .

Shalom!

Further Reading

Parents are to protect their children

Are you a good parent

How well do you know your children!

Children's lack of discipline