HIV/AIDS?

Few months back I had to go to the clinic for antenatal registration, and at the end of it I was given such a huge bill that I had to exclaim. But upon questioning the accounts clerk I was given the breakdown of the payment and I was so surprise to see HIV/AIDS test boldly written on the receipt. This gave me a scare because it never really occurred to me that you have to do such tests when you go in for such registration. Maybe I was told and I was like, that does not have anything to do with me! So I didn’t pay attention to it. But believe me, after I left the clinic, even though I have no reason to be bothered, I kept wondering about it and I could not wait until my next visit to ask for the outcome. Sure it was negative, as I knew it was going to be.

But then I remembered the story of a sister, who got married to a fellow brother in her church, they were both born again xtians, nobody need to tell you they were before you know, they were serious xtians. Immediately after their marriage, the lady took in and delivered. After some months she started falling sick, it was so serious that she had to be transferred from one hospital to another until she finally landed at a teaching hospital where she was diagnosed with HIV. When she was questioned about her sexual life she was at first very angry and refused to answer their questions because she was a virgin when she got married and never had sexual relation with any other person except her husband. The husband and child were tested and both tested positive.

Then the question of who gave who arose, both claimed they have been faithful. Few months after this, the wife died and later the child, still the man kept mute and tongues started wagging about the sister been the perpetrator since she died first. Then the man developed symptoms too and it was on his deathbed he confessed that when the wife was pregnant at the early stage and could not fulfil her marital obligations, he had to look elsewhere for sex because he was so used to it then that abstinence was difficult for him to cope with. Imagine that!

Saturday 1st Dec 2007, is another world’s AID day, how do you feel about this? Some don’t believe AIDS is real, some believe they cannot have it, while others don’t think it’s worth a second thought. But please hear this, people that are afraid of confronting the issue of AIDS are usually the ones to be infected simply because of their non-committal attitude towards it. To read more about HIV/AIDS, visit this link.

Be blessed and please live a healthy life.

Here we go again!

This seems to be the season of awards; I also received some awards from Channelofhealing. The blog has been a great source of inspiration to me especially in the area of healing. At COH, you will receive healing to your body, Soul and refreshment to your inner self (Spirit), thanks for these awards.

Mathetes Award created by Dan King;

This I gladly pass to: SavedbyJesus,

RefinedOne,

PastorLScott,

NYCindividual,

Houseofvirtue.

Nice matters award created by Bob;

This goes to; Franscud,

Ejiro,

Janiceng,

Constructicle Boy,

Wits & Wisdom,

A Naijawife.

This was created by PrudentMusings.

And this is for,SavedbyJesus,

Shinade,

Manchild,

Nuggets of Gold.

Be blessed.

A Silver Bloggyaward.

MumsDadsChildren has won a Silver Award from Bloggyaward, this came as a total surprise to me, and I want to use this opportunity to say a very big thank you to Bloggyaward for the review. Here is the review, dedicated to all friends and readers of this blog.

MumsDadsChildren “Marriage, parenting, and the act of truly great and amazing kids.” This is what MumsDadsChildren is all about. It sounds like the toughest job in the world to me!

Visual Aesthetics - 8
The tan and beige color scheme gives an understated look to the whole blog. Pictures could help in sprucing up the looks of the blog, though. These would also break up the long blocks of texts that are not really all that pleasing to the eyes.

User Friendliness - 9
Navigation is pretty easy. The links are all on the right hand column and are well-organized. The only thing that may cause a little bit of an inconvenience is the small size of the font. The paragraphs are also bunched together, making it a bit hard to read.

Reading Enjoyment - 9
The posts are generally well written and easy to read. The topics are varied and are easy to relate to, generally. There is a sprinkling of paid posts, some of which are enjoyable.

Useful Info - 9
The blog is full of insights and ideas that couples, parents, and even singles can relate to. I am sure that other readers find the information from this blog as useful and insightful as I do.

Overall Experience - 9
Aside from the slight lack in visual terms, this blog is one that has a lot of good content to offer. Anyone interested in relationships and parenting should pay this blog a visit.

Children’s Lack of Discipline.

Lack of control or restrain is so common in our society today and I really don’t know whom to hold responsible for this. Is it the mother’s fault? Or is the father lacking in his responsibility to the child? Could it be the child refused to listen to reason? Where did the problem originate? This is one seemingly intractable problem in most families today.

Indiscipline manifests in such areas as examination malpractices, secret cult menace, unprotected sex, unwanted pregnancies, bribery and corruption, prostitution (both male and female now). There are crisis everywhere you turn in the society as a result of undisciplined youths, most parents neglect the care of their children in search of greener pastures or better prospects and by the time they get their breakthrough, they are total strangers to their children who have become uncontrollable and distant.

Most parents today leave their children in the care of maids and child sitters or sometimes to their own devices thinking they are old enough to take care of themselves, they come in from their place of work only to rush out to meet with their charity group, their club friends, attend dinner at friends house and so on thinking all is well until something otherwise happen.

Parents should take up the challenge of raising God fearing, obedient and disciplined children, this will better our own lives, give us peace in our old age and make the world a better place for everyone to live in. Think of it, there will be little or no perversion, rape, kidnapping for whatever purpose, robbery, smuggling, corruption, drugs etc. In other to achieve this, you can;

• Teach him to pray as soon as he/she can speak or old enough to understand what prayer means.
• Correct cruelty to others either human or animal,
• Tell the child not to lie or correct a lie whenever it is uttered, do not punish a fault that is freely confessed, but never allow a disobedient act to go unpunished.
• Teach them to love others always as themselves,
• Don’t give them room to satisfy their own desires or adhere to their own opinions, it could lead to selfishness or destructive habit when denied,
• Give him whatever he politely asks for, if it’s good for him but deny him whatever he cries for whether it is good for him or not.
• Don’t make empty promises or promises you know you cannot fulfill, honor every promise you make to them.
• Commend them when well behaved and reward when necessary.

Remember Prov 22:6, train up a child in the way he should go, when he is old, he will not turn from it.

Be blessed.

Tagged.

Suzanne tagged me after I registered at NaBloPoMo, this is interesting because I get to tell you all 7 random things about myself. I guess that means something you don’t already know about me.

But before I get overly excited about it, I need to tell you the rules because I get to also tag 7 random bloggers for this meme. So here are the rules as Suzanne Says:


1. Link to the person that tagged you and posts the rules on your blog.
2. Share 7 random and or weird things about yourself.
3. Tag 7 random people at the end of your post and include links to their blogs.
4. Let each person know that they have been tagged by leaving a comment on their blog.

Seven Random Things About Me:

• I am the first born of my parents, who were so happy when I gave them their first overdue grandchild;
• I am the first female engineer in my entire family tree; I guess that’s diversity;
• I have a passion for excellence;
• Married my first real love and blissfully happy;
• Expecting my second child, which is why I blog/comment/respond to emails sluggishly now, and crave the most craziest food you cannot imagine;
• I hate to see fellow human beings suffer or treated unjustly, maybe I should have been a human right activist; only I can’t stomach confrontations, lengthy fights or argument;
• I love children and hope I could have lots and lots of them, ooops, forget I said that before someone decide to take me up on it.

Seven Random Bloggers:

Becca

Clement

Ejiro

Guardian Angel

Awannabe

Cbenc12

Elaine

Who should be responsible for household chores?

From time immemorial, it is generally believe that the bulk of the housework lies on the woman of the house, whether she is strong enough to do so, or in the right frame of mind to do it is not of utmost importance, the bottom line is it’s an obligation she must fulfil. I was privy to an argument between two of my office colleagues where one of the two guys bluntly stated that he married his wife to take care of his home and raise his children, which is the only work he believed a woman should do and not running helter skelter to meet up with office deadlines and so on. Then I asked him what he does in the house to assist the woman, and he simply replied that he washes their cars in the mornings and that is all. So in essence, the woman cooks, do the dirty laundry and ironing, prepare the children for school, drive them to school, drive back home to take care of the mess left behind, prepare lunch for the children, do afternoon school runs, help the kids with their homework, shopping, all for the man to come back from work with his own demands. My next question to the egoistical bagel was when does she usually wake up and sleep, he said she wake by 4am and sleep 11:30/12pm which he said is not bad because she has all day to catch up on her sleep and rest. From what I’ve heard so far and the appearance of the woman from the few times I’ve met with her I thought to myself that it was no wonder the woman always looked exhausted no matter the time of the day. She does not have any spare time for rest, she is always on her toes and the husband does not seem to mind. He looks robust and well fed, because he does absolutely nothing, I’ve heard him several times arranged to have his car washed by the parking lot attendants.
The other guy is a bachelor and he felt that was an abnormal way to treat a woman whom you professed to love and cherish, I agreed with him because the guy turned his wife into a slave in her own house.
I don’t think it is right for a man to leave all the housework for the woman alone coupled with her responsibility as a wife and mother. If the husband cannot assist directly due to a reason or the other, and the children are not old enough to also lend a helping hand, then he should employ a maid for her; take up the gender roles in the household duties to reduce the work overload on the woman.
Men should remember that how they use/treat their wives has a direct effect on the looks/appearance and health of the woman. Even though the husband is the head of the family, he should be ready to relieve the woman of some of her duties once in a while and also be willing to share the household duties equally with the woman and also adapt his lifestyle to being married just as the woman did.

Garage Flooring

I recently pack up my computer service business because of some unscrupulous area boys who made their living off shop owners. Many times before I had to close up the shop I have had to pay series of official and unofficial dues to these boys who will go to any length to make sure they get what they want from the business owner. Upon packing up, I really did not have any idea where I was going to keep all the things; my house is already tight with no space to spare for storing items. The only place I could think of was the garage, but then the garage flooring is beat up, cracked and oil stained, it is definitely not the best place to keep computers, photocopiers and other related items, unless some repair work is done first or if the place could clean well. Maybe I will just order some tiles from carguygarage in any pattern to cover up the floor and probably end up giving my home a whole new look