HIV/AIDS?

Few months back I had to go to the clinic for antenatal registration, and at the end of it I was given such a huge bill that I had to exclaim. But upon questioning the accounts clerk I was given the breakdown of the payment and I was so surprise to see HIV/AIDS test boldly written on the receipt. This gave me a scare because it never really occurred to me that you have to do such tests when you go in for such registration. Maybe I was told and I was like, that does not have anything to do with me! So I didn’t pay attention to it. But believe me, after I left the clinic, even though I have no reason to be bothered, I kept wondering about it and I could not wait until my next visit to ask for the outcome. Sure it was negative, as I knew it was going to be.

But then I remembered the story of a sister, who got married to a fellow brother in her church, they were both born again xtians, nobody need to tell you they were before you know, they were serious xtians. Immediately after their marriage, the lady took in and delivered. After some months she started falling sick, it was so serious that she had to be transferred from one hospital to another until she finally landed at a teaching hospital where she was diagnosed with HIV. When she was questioned about her sexual life she was at first very angry and refused to answer their questions because she was a virgin when she got married and never had sexual relation with any other person except her husband. The husband and child were tested and both tested positive.

Then the question of who gave who arose, both claimed they have been faithful. Few months after this, the wife died and later the child, still the man kept mute and tongues started wagging about the sister been the perpetrator since she died first. Then the man developed symptoms too and it was on his deathbed he confessed that when the wife was pregnant at the early stage and could not fulfil her marital obligations, he had to look elsewhere for sex because he was so used to it then that abstinence was difficult for him to cope with. Imagine that!

Saturday 1st Dec 2007, is another world’s AID day, how do you feel about this? Some don’t believe AIDS is real, some believe they cannot have it, while others don’t think it’s worth a second thought. But please hear this, people that are afraid of confronting the issue of AIDS are usually the ones to be infected simply because of their non-committal attitude towards it. To read more about HIV/AIDS, visit this link.

Be blessed and please live a healthy life.

Here we go again!

This seems to be the season of awards; I also received some awards from Channelofhealing. The blog has been a great source of inspiration to me especially in the area of healing. At COH, you will receive healing to your body, Soul and refreshment to your inner self (Spirit), thanks for these awards.

Mathetes Award created by Dan King;

This I gladly pass to: SavedbyJesus,

RefinedOne,

PastorLScott,

NYCindividual,

Houseofvirtue.

Nice matters award created by Bob;

This goes to; Franscud,

Ejiro,

Janiceng,

Constructicle Boy,

Wits & Wisdom,

A Naijawife.

This was created by PrudentMusings.

And this is for,SavedbyJesus,

Shinade,

Manchild,

Nuggets of Gold.

Be blessed.

A Silver Bloggyaward.

MumsDadsChildren has won a Silver Award from Bloggyaward, this came as a total surprise to me, and I want to use this opportunity to say a very big thank you to Bloggyaward for the review. Here is the review, dedicated to all friends and readers of this blog.

MumsDadsChildren “Marriage, parenting, and the act of truly great and amazing kids.” This is what MumsDadsChildren is all about. It sounds like the toughest job in the world to me!

Visual Aesthetics - 8
The tan and beige color scheme gives an understated look to the whole blog. Pictures could help in sprucing up the looks of the blog, though. These would also break up the long blocks of texts that are not really all that pleasing to the eyes.

User Friendliness - 9
Navigation is pretty easy. The links are all on the right hand column and are well-organized. The only thing that may cause a little bit of an inconvenience is the small size of the font. The paragraphs are also bunched together, making it a bit hard to read.

Reading Enjoyment - 9
The posts are generally well written and easy to read. The topics are varied and are easy to relate to, generally. There is a sprinkling of paid posts, some of which are enjoyable.

Useful Info - 9
The blog is full of insights and ideas that couples, parents, and even singles can relate to. I am sure that other readers find the information from this blog as useful and insightful as I do.

Overall Experience - 9
Aside from the slight lack in visual terms, this blog is one that has a lot of good content to offer. Anyone interested in relationships and parenting should pay this blog a visit.

Children’s Lack of Discipline.

Lack of control or restrain is so common in our society today and I really don’t know whom to hold responsible for this. Is it the mother’s fault? Or is the father lacking in his responsibility to the child? Could it be the child refused to listen to reason? Where did the problem originate? This is one seemingly intractable problem in most families today.

Indiscipline manifests in such areas as examination malpractices, secret cult menace, unprotected sex, unwanted pregnancies, bribery and corruption, prostitution (both male and female now). There are crisis everywhere you turn in the society as a result of undisciplined youths, most parents neglect the care of their children in search of greener pastures or better prospects and by the time they get their breakthrough, they are total strangers to their children who have become uncontrollable and distant.

Most parents today leave their children in the care of maids and child sitters or sometimes to their own devices thinking they are old enough to take care of themselves, they come in from their place of work only to rush out to meet with their charity group, their club friends, attend dinner at friends house and so on thinking all is well until something otherwise happen.

Parents should take up the challenge of raising God fearing, obedient and disciplined children, this will better our own lives, give us peace in our old age and make the world a better place for everyone to live in. Think of it, there will be little or no perversion, rape, kidnapping for whatever purpose, robbery, smuggling, corruption, drugs etc. In other to achieve this, you can;

• Teach him to pray as soon as he/she can speak or old enough to understand what prayer means.
• Correct cruelty to others either human or animal,
• Tell the child not to lie or correct a lie whenever it is uttered, do not punish a fault that is freely confessed, but never allow a disobedient act to go unpunished.
• Teach them to love others always as themselves,
• Don’t give them room to satisfy their own desires or adhere to their own opinions, it could lead to selfishness or destructive habit when denied,
• Give him whatever he politely asks for, if it’s good for him but deny him whatever he cries for whether it is good for him or not.
• Don’t make empty promises or promises you know you cannot fulfill, honor every promise you make to them.
• Commend them when well behaved and reward when necessary.

Remember Prov 22:6, train up a child in the way he should go, when he is old, he will not turn from it.

Be blessed.

Tagged.

Suzanne tagged me after I registered at NaBloPoMo, this is interesting because I get to tell you all 7 random things about myself. I guess that means something you don’t already know about me.

But before I get overly excited about it, I need to tell you the rules because I get to also tag 7 random bloggers for this meme. So here are the rules as Suzanne Says:


1. Link to the person that tagged you and posts the rules on your blog.
2. Share 7 random and or weird things about yourself.
3. Tag 7 random people at the end of your post and include links to their blogs.
4. Let each person know that they have been tagged by leaving a comment on their blog.

Seven Random Things About Me:

• I am the first born of my parents, who were so happy when I gave them their first overdue grandchild;
• I am the first female engineer in my entire family tree; I guess that’s diversity;
• I have a passion for excellence;
• Married my first real love and blissfully happy;
• Expecting my second child, which is why I blog/comment/respond to emails sluggishly now, and crave the most craziest food you cannot imagine;
• I hate to see fellow human beings suffer or treated unjustly, maybe I should have been a human right activist; only I can’t stomach confrontations, lengthy fights or argument;
• I love children and hope I could have lots and lots of them, ooops, forget I said that before someone decide to take me up on it.

Seven Random Bloggers:

Becca

Clement

Ejiro

Guardian Angel

Awannabe

Cbenc12

Elaine

Who should be responsible for household chores?

From time immemorial, it is generally believe that the bulk of the housework lies on the woman of the house, whether she is strong enough to do so, or in the right frame of mind to do it is not of utmost importance, the bottom line is it’s an obligation she must fulfil. I was privy to an argument between two of my office colleagues where one of the two guys bluntly stated that he married his wife to take care of his home and raise his children, which is the only work he believed a woman should do and not running helter skelter to meet up with office deadlines and so on. Then I asked him what he does in the house to assist the woman, and he simply replied that he washes their cars in the mornings and that is all. So in essence, the woman cooks, do the dirty laundry and ironing, prepare the children for school, drive them to school, drive back home to take care of the mess left behind, prepare lunch for the children, do afternoon school runs, help the kids with their homework, shopping, all for the man to come back from work with his own demands. My next question to the egoistical bagel was when does she usually wake up and sleep, he said she wake by 4am and sleep 11:30/12pm which he said is not bad because she has all day to catch up on her sleep and rest. From what I’ve heard so far and the appearance of the woman from the few times I’ve met with her I thought to myself that it was no wonder the woman always looked exhausted no matter the time of the day. She does not have any spare time for rest, she is always on her toes and the husband does not seem to mind. He looks robust and well fed, because he does absolutely nothing, I’ve heard him several times arranged to have his car washed by the parking lot attendants.
The other guy is a bachelor and he felt that was an abnormal way to treat a woman whom you professed to love and cherish, I agreed with him because the guy turned his wife into a slave in her own house.
I don’t think it is right for a man to leave all the housework for the woman alone coupled with her responsibility as a wife and mother. If the husband cannot assist directly due to a reason or the other, and the children are not old enough to also lend a helping hand, then he should employ a maid for her; take up the gender roles in the household duties to reduce the work overload on the woman.
Men should remember that how they use/treat their wives has a direct effect on the looks/appearance and health of the woman. Even though the husband is the head of the family, he should be ready to relieve the woman of some of her duties once in a while and also be willing to share the household duties equally with the woman and also adapt his lifestyle to being married just as the woman did.

Garage Flooring

I recently pack up my computer service business because of some unscrupulous area boys who made their living off shop owners. Many times before I had to close up the shop I have had to pay series of official and unofficial dues to these boys who will go to any length to make sure they get what they want from the business owner. Upon packing up, I really did not have any idea where I was going to keep all the things; my house is already tight with no space to spare for storing items. The only place I could think of was the garage, but then the garage flooring is beat up, cracked and oil stained, it is definitely not the best place to keep computers, photocopiers and other related items, unless some repair work is done first or if the place could clean well. Maybe I will just order some tiles from carguygarage in any pattern to cover up the floor and probably end up giving my home a whole new look

Branding with the wedding band.

I can remember the number of times I have argued with my husband about the use of his wedding ring, and it’s always the same answer over and over. Whenever I asked why he does not like to wear it even when I wear my own all the time, his answer is usually, “you need it more than I do”. He said wearing the wedding ring is not the important thing, it is love that matters. He said the use of the ring does not prevent him from being unfaithful, because he simply does not have cause to be unfaithful, whether he wears the ring or not is immaterial.

This issue bothered me until a close friend told me the story of how her lecturer husband has been sleeping around with students and even some of his female co-lecturers. But you need to see the mark the wedding band left on this guy’s finger, without the use of the band itself, the indelible mark is enough to tell you this guy is married. And that’s how he’s been sleeping around with other women while wearing the wedding ring. What seems to be most amazing about these single girls dating married men is the fact that they knew without doubt that the men are married with children and they don’t seem to care.
The same goes for married women who sleep around, they are simply incredible! I often wondered at the men that go into relationship with them, they must be something else too. Such men must have lost all form of decency in order to be able to sleep with another man’s wife no matter how willing or alluring the woman is.
In essence, wedding band or not, it’s the heart that matters, someone could even stamped MARRIED on their forehead for all to see, and still have the morals of an alley cat.
Why then are people so crazy about the wedding ring?
Women especially love to flaunt it, it’s a sign that that they belong to a man.
And the men especially love their wives to wear it because it’s a mark indicating identity or ownership of the women.
I love to use it simply because, it’s a reminder of the love we vowed for each other.

My new venture.

Blogging is good business for those who know how to blog for money. I really don’t see anything wrong in trying to get paid for blogging, if you have the time and what it takes; the only snag is one must know when to draw the line between paid post and your normal post. The whole blog must not be filled up with paid posts. At least your readers must still have something to look forward to apart from paid posts. I like to do paid post because I can have something else to give to readers apart from my main blog subject which is variety and I can also make some cool extra cash along the line which will definitely come in handy as I progress in blogging. This is partly why I have decided to join the Smorty wagon and check out what they have to offer in terms of service and delivery. You never can tell how good the pudding is unless you eat it. Smorty is a service that connects advertisers and bloggers for their mutual benefits, the advertiser pay the blogger to share their opinion on their blogs with a link back to their site. It’s as simple as ABC; I hope I get value for money from this new venture.

Does she have a problem or something?

Sometimes when people tell me about their problems, I can’t help but ask why such a thing should happen to someone that good. I guess life is easier on some than others. I have a lady friend, whom we graduated together (eight years back), when we were in school, we were as close as the proverbial Siamese twins, of course we were in the same department, attend the same fellowship and invariably have the same friends. After graduation we all went our separate ways in search of greener pastures, we did not lose contact however, as she always make my parents home her base whenever she comes to town.
One day I just picked up the courage to ask her why she is not yet contemplating marriage and I was shocked at the response I got. She had been jilted so many times by so called believing brothers that she has now lost faith in relationship with men. You see, brothers will come to her today saying she is God’s will for them and the next day will tell her they were sorry but they were mistaken. I used to know her as a very strong believer who was also very active in fellowship activities, in fact I never thought she was going to have problem with marriage. Her latest courtship failed after the man unsuccessfully tried to travel out of the country in search of greener pasture, he just woke up one day to tell her that in view of all that is happening, he is not yet ready for marriage she should pray for someone else. How very pathetic, my friend is tending towards late 30s.
After this discussion, I felt very sorry for her and being my friend do not want to believe she has a fault that make men run from her. But what could be the problem?

He thought he’s better at it than I am.

As I was hurrying to go out of the office for lunch, I met this man out by the corridor and I was quite surprise to see a visitor at that time of the day because everyone connected to the company knows the rule around here. Once it’s lunchtime, no visitor is allowed into the office area until after. Upon questioning he claim to be an insurance sales man and I just frankly told him that all my insurance needs will be taken care of by Advantage Term Life, whom I have heard are quite dependable when it comes to any form of Coverage for Insurance, for Cheaper Insurance Rates and also for Whole Life Policies. I guess he did not need a second invitation to leave; he disappeared before I could finish my own sales pitch.

It’s a game of chance.

I’m never the type that likes to play games, and anything that involves hazardous uncertainty I’ve always shunned. My attitude is unlike that of my colleague in the office who likes to take unnecessary risks in the hope of gaining an advantage or getting an undeserved benefit. He cruises through the web searching for sites offering gambling or casino information. One of his favourites is fortune room, though his source of information is basically from online casino, I seriously can’t understand why someone will want to wager on something he has not seen or knows virtually next to nothing about. I guess his behaviour stems from being a bachelor without responsibility. For him, it’s good business, but for me it’s something else entirely. Recently my younger brother also got hooked on something similar, he played with his two months salary in the hope of getting double or thrice what he invested, but unfortunately he lost all his money. I guess gambling is not for the fainthearted.

I hate poverty, it makes me unhappy!

Poverty is not good, it is sad and sometimes sickening to observe. Then abject poverty is… (Can’t find the right word to describe it). Poverty is a ruin of ones ego, the poor is shunned by the society, by the neighbours, by friends, by the government and most difficult to swallow by their family. Even children these days shun their parents and eventually abandon them in the hope of cutting off the string that ties them to poverty. A poor person is deserted by everyone he holds dear, ruled over by the rich, the person does not have any say among his peers, it is so sad.
I do not believe that someone could voluntarily wish to be poor, though there may be some issues that the poor person need to address in other to extricate himself or herself from poverty. For instance;

• Laziness
• Refusal to work
• Responsibility greater than one’s income
• Poor money management skills
• Refusal to take up any other job apart from one qualified for
• Being too slow either in action or thought
• Not planning for the future.
• Financial indiscipline
• The fear of failure
• Stinginess etc.

All these and many more could lead to poverty. They cannot afford the basic things like three meals a day, paying hospital bills, they don’t even have a roof over their heads, most exists in the open come rain or sunshine, some survive on items of clothing or food salvaged from waste bins or refuse dumps. When most of us pass them on the road, we try to avoid them like the plague with our well fed bodies clothed in the finest clothing from the top designers. Most even try to shield their children from this reality. I have been guilty of this, which is why I have decided to do this post.
Who has the responsibility of eradicating poverty? The person affected? The society? Or the government?

What a sad world!

My thoughts today are with parents who have lost their child violently through the hands of perverted souls mistakenly labelled as human beings. There is no consoling such people; no amount of words could be enough to douse their bitterness and anger at life for allowing such thing to happen to their child. It pained me that someone somewhere birthed such human garbage and their births were also rejoiced over, probably with a lot of funfair, I wish their parent knew what they would become, maybe they could have done something to prevent these depraved entities from causing so much pain and anguish to innocent families by the brutal murder of their children. What pleasure could an adult get from sexually molesting small children who never understand anything other than to cry for mummy at the slightest pain or inconvenience.
My questions are;
Are such persons human?
What goes through their mind when perpetrating such evil?
Were such people born with paedophilic tendencies or was it developed over the years?
What make some people so cruel, wicked and unfeeling that even the cries that emanate from their victims is not enough to deter them from committing the evil act?
Friends, after reading this story from NAFASG, I could not stop crying at the inhumanity of some people. It could have been any other child from any part of the world, they are everywhere, please lets be very careful with our young ones.
May God protect us all.